Releasing Resentment

January 15, 2012

Click here to listen to today’s Daily Power Prayer for Releasing Resentment!:

Every day I consciously anchor into a deep intention to be the greatest expression of love that I can possibly be. Living inside this holy intention year after year, I became keenly aware that I was resolving and dissolving old habits of separation that I couldn’t tolerate in myself any more. One habit that has been so strong in my mind is the habit of making negative meaning out of the interactions in my life that confuse me.

When I felt needy and unsure about a relationship and that person didn’t return my call, I would imagine a negative reason for why they weren’t calling. I’d think it had to do with how they felt about me or how much they valued our relationship. Several times I did this and later discovered that the reason they didn’t call was that something was preventing them. Something I never would have imagined – like a car accident or a lost phone. And yet I had spent hours and days in upset because I jumped to the negative conclusion. I was creating such suffering myself. Little by little I began to be willing to see that suffering is optional. I create it through thoughts of wanting, needing, grasping, hatred and judgment.

People often rush to make negative meaning out of something and then cook up a big pot of resentment stew inside themselves. They ladle this stew all over everything they’re doing that day, that week, that year. When they finally connect with the person whose behavior is so hurtful to them they learn that it was all a simple misunderstanding. The entire pot of resentment stew has been labored over, cooked and seasoned for hours or days, months or years, now turns out to be completely fabricated. It was just a big waste of time and energy.

UNLESS, in that moment, of realization – when you see it was all a mis-take, a misperception, you forgive yourself and you DECIDE to harvest the learning and not allow yourself to do that again. You really can give up the right to make yourself miserable. It takes real focus and attention to unwind these patterns, but there’s a Divine Alchemy that’s yours for the asking.

Byron Katie tells us “Fear has only two basic causes: The thought that I may lose what I have or the thought that I may not get what I want.” To that I would add, all fear is really the result of thinking we want something other than Oneness of all life. If we value separation, if we think that we want something that cannot be found within and that we must have it, we will always be suffering.

We could solve the world’s problems if we all gave up making resentment stew. We could certainly have peace on earth if we decided to give up the habit of making negative meaning out of circumstances. Isn’t that a great intention to set for this precious new year?

Today I anchor peace and love in my experiences. I’m determined to hold the high watch for myself and for those around me and support them in anchoring too. I intend to do my very best to make positive meaning out of life’s challenges and uncertainties. I intend to give everyone the benefit of the doubt, always. In this way my choices bring forth more love in the world on a daily basis and they truly do make a profound difference. Today I’m living in a new way in order to experience a new day and share it with everyone I meet.


I make positive meaning out of the events in my life. I hold the high watch for myself and choose to be love, to see love and to receive love all the live long day.

The Difference YOU Can Make in a Year! – Free Call Monday

I’ve rescheduled the postponed free call “The Difference YOU Can Make in a Year” to Monday, January 16th, Martin Luther King, Jr. Day at 9am Pacific, 11 Central, Noon Eastern, 5pm London. If you are registered already you’ll be receiving the access info – if you have not registered you can still register for free now: click here.


A Course in Miracles, ACIM, How to forgive, Jennifer Hadley, Living A Course in Miracles, Spiritual classes

  • Hi Jennifer, could you elaborate on your affirmation, particularly the second sentence, “and to love all the live long day.” I write your affirmations and do not read this one correctly to understand the whole statement.

    Thank you for being my prayer partner.

  • Rev Jennifer,

    I really liked this prayer and what you wrote about fear. I plan to use your affirmation in my daily spiritual practice. I plan to listen to your call on Monday at 9am (my time too). Thank you again for all you do within our world. You are an inspiration to my spiritual growth.
    Namaste, bjbishop

  • It’s a common expression, maybe from the south, and my grandmother was a southern belle – the expression is “all the live long day.” I guess you could say it means – the entire day, from start to finish, with an emphasis on no breaks, totally and emphatically. Hope that helps you! xo

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