I’m not a parent, I’m an Aunt – and yet I sure can imagine that parenting is incredibly challenging. Parents would like to teach their children how to behave well, feel balanced and grow up being peaceful, kind and generous. That’s a tall order.
Especially, when kids are upset and provoking their parents.
My sister-in-law has been an amazing mom and what I saw her do with all her kids at that age was to have a time out – where they had to turn and face the wall for a minute and to simply think about what happened – she stayed there with them, so they didn’t feel punished or abandoned, but they were essentially forced to think about what was going on and how they were feeling.
After a minute or so they were able to be more clear about what they were feeling and actually speak it out and then, she would get down to their level and look, eye to eye, and they could dialogue about how they felt. OF COURSE the healing happened because she was COMPLETELY loving them. Love is the healer!
In a way, this technique applies to everyone. Giving your SELF a chance to have a time out and consider what’s really going on so that you can be responsive rather than reactive is really worth it. This is something I had to learn and it’s brought me so much benefit.
Peace is the way!
I AM willing to be peaceful.