My Mother’s Day Makeover

May 12, 2024

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For a long time I blamed my mother for some of my “problems.” Now, I thank her for my opportunities. I’m so grateful for the teachings of A Course in Miracles which, through truly LIVING them, I’ve been able to transform my life, my perspective and, most importantly, my heart.

Sometimes we get a really great mother and sometimes our mother seems to be lacking. I know for many years I felt that my dear mother felt like a mixed bag to me. It took me a long, long time, to realize how completely perfect she was – for me. For a long time, I was ungrateful, and now I’m wholly grateful.

When my mother received a terminal illness diagnosis and was told she had a few months to live, I made the heart commitment that we would have a total healing in our relationship before she made her transition. I made it my top priority and I made it my total responsibility.

In self-help programs and in psychological therapy, I was told that I should only take 50% of the responsibility for the quality of my relationships. For me, it was a big shift to go from blaming the other person for ALL of my upset to taking 50% responsibility.

Through my spiritual practice, I came to realize that taking 100% responsibility with 0% blame is the way of healing.

When I took responsibility for all of my feelings and thoughts, as well as my interpretations of my life with my mother, then I finally was able to release all of the guilt I felt (but didn’t realize) for blaming her. Because of that, I experienced a complete healing and transformation of our relationship before she made her transition. I am more grateful for that than I could ever express.

I released so much guilt that my consciousness shifted so much that my life has never been the same. This was truly the beginning of my shift into awakening.

I’d felt so much hurt, resentment and anger toward my mother, and a lot of it wasn’t even about her at all. It took me SO long to realize that I felt so GUILTY about being mean and unkind to my precious mother, and I was projecting my guilt onto her and blaming her for that too – I didn’t even know it.

My mother wasn’t perfect, but she was perfect for me and I let her know that I felt her perfection and that I didn’t carry anything against her anymore. We had a total healing together. It was truly beautiful. God’s grace is available to all of us through forgiveness.

I will always be grateful for the teachings of ACIM which helped me to have faith that the healing with my mother would happen.

Fortunately, we had all the time we needed. She lived three years after that original diagnosis and about 2.5 years in, I had a total clearing of all the upset from the past. Yes, it was a miraculous and instantaneous experience that was 48 years in the making.

It was my commitment that brought it forth. The healing was so complete and so profound it propelled me to be even more dedicated to my healing, and to sharing with others.

Truly living A Course in Miracles has allowed me to hand over the resentment and regret that tortured me for decades. Making that shift from ungrateful to grateful in my relationship with my mother completely changed my life and my thinking. In a sense, it was the “making” of me.

In the Manual for Teachers, Chapter 4, Development of Trust, it says “It takes great learning to understand that ALL things events, encounters and circumstances are helpful.”

It’s a giant breakthrough in awareness when one is willing to discover the Truth of that statement.

In my classes I say, Prove God in your life. Prove what’s true about God and you’ll never regret it. When we’re intent on the truth, that which is false easily falls away.

I used to be completely dedicated to my opinions and yet I was still able to learn that the truth really does set you free. Are you willing to be free? Or do you in some way still blame others for your circumstances? Do you deny the learning in order to hold onto the judgment and then force yourself to repeat the lessons over and over? I did that so frequently.

If you’d like to give yourself a new relationship with your mother(s), you can. It’s easier than you think, but only if you’re truly willing to be loving – to be able to love without needing to get ANYTHING in return. Love is not a “give to get” experience, it’s your true nature revealed. Give the Higher Holy Spirit Self the heavy lifting – let Spirit undo all the consequences of your “wrong decisions” of the past.

BTW, I have done a couple of episodes about mothers on my weekly A Course in Miracles Podcast and you can search through the archive for episodes on whatever topic you’re interested in – there are so many on relationship and forgiveness.

Years ago, I made a VIDEO about my Mother’s Day Makeover and you can click here to watch it now.


We all have many mothers. There’s our birth mother and then there can sometimes be several women who help raise us plus grandmothers and aunties who feel like mothers. I have friends who are very maternal and are almost like a surrogate mother to me. And there are people in my life that I feel very motherly towards.

There’s Mom and then the Divine Mother. Each Mother has a role to play in our awakening to our Divine Nature as the complete and perfect Love that we all are and always will be.

I’ve learned so much about forgiveness – I’ve learned the power it has to heal our mind and our lives. It’s the bringer of so many miracles – and yet, it’s so misunderstood. Because it’s misunderstood it’s often unsuccessful and avoided. That’s why I’m so intent on teaching forgiveness. As it says in A Course in Miracles: Forgiveness offers everything I need. Amen.

TODAY: We’ve got a FREE Forgiveness Workshop! Just in time for Mother’s Day.

ALSO TODAY – Sundays With Spirit, our FREE online service is today and I hope to see you on ZOOM! Click here to learn more and register if you’re not already. Of course, there’s no charge and ALL are welcome! Register now to get the zoom link. I’ll see you there!

Happy Mother’s Day!

Ready to Make A Leap?

If you feel as though you’ve been playing small, but would like to share your gifts and talents you may be interested in some of the professional trainings I’m offering. If you have self-doubt you’d like to transform so that you can share from Spirit and inspire others check out what we’re up to. These trainings are open to anyone – feel free to join us!

THIS MONTH I’m offering my Quantum Counseling Training Intensive and Create and Lead Workshops with Rev. Karen Russo – both are open to anyone, and many people like to combine them for maximum transformation.

If you’d like to learn more, click here for more information. These trainings are open to anyone who’d like to build their skills AND do some deep spiritual healing of patterns of unworthiness! We can even help you get CEU’s if that’s helpful.

We’re an expanding global spiritual community of prayerful people willing to be co-workers with God. We’re waking up together and finding freedom in our hearts. I’m so grateful for this!

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If your spiritual practice isn’t giving you miraculous results that you can FEEL and see and recognize, then it’s time to rethink it. Quite honestly, that’s one of the great advantages to working with a Spiritual Counselor – they can help you get back on track in ways that are TANGIBLE. I’ve been training spiritual counselors for a decade. And those in training are available to do sessions on a donation basis. We also offer FREE Exploratory Calls with Counselors to assist you in taking stock, getting clear what your next steps are and it’s a great way to get support for Free. If you think any of our programs might be right for you, but you’re not sure – book a free Exploratory Call today.

NEW PODCAST EPISODE! The most recent episode of my podcast’s topic is Crucify Much?  When we try to motivate ourselves and others with guilt, shame and blame, we’re intensifying our own experience of feeling badly about ourselves. In this episode, I share how to clearly turn away from doubling down into ego identification in order have a happier and healthier life.  We’re learning to forgive and practice compassion and eliminate blame, shame and guilt.


ACIM, affection, daily prayer, Healing, Inspiration, Jennifer Hadley, Living A Course in Miracles, love, Peace, power prayer

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