The ego has a song it sings loudly at holiday times: You don’t appreciate me. They don’t appreciate me. They don’t recognize me. They don’t value me.
I used to sing that song. Did I ever. I only sang it to myself, of course.
Here’s how crazy it got. I expected not to be properly appreciated, and that expectation, as we all know, is a recipe for disappointment. Sure enough, people disappointed me by not appreciating or recognizing me.
That gave me an opportunity to complain, to judge, to take offense, and to feel hurt and angry. I could take it out on them, judge them and myself, and feel even more upset.
Is that what we’d do to someone we love?
Think of a child you love. I think of my nephew when he was a precious little three-year-old, just a little love muffin, so precious and innocent.
Would I tell him, Nobody really loves you. Nobody understands you. Nobody appreciates you. Nobody values you. Look, here’s the proof. It’s never going to change, and no matter what you do, you’ll never be loved and appreciated as you want to be? Would I then tell him to take it out on those people, judge them, get angry, throw a fit, and shut them out?
No. I’d never encourage him to do the things I encouraged myself to do.
Why?
Because I Love him.
That’s the craziness of the ego.
Here’s how we heal these painful patterns. We interrupt them by calling the name of God.
In the name of God, Beloved, I am that I am. I partner up with the Higher Holy Spirit Self. I’m not interested in these thoughts, patterns, and beliefs anymore. Please take them out of my mind so I never think them again. I choose holy relationships. I choose holiness. Thank you. So it is.
It’s a simple practice of choosing Love, and it’ll get us through the darkest days.
If we think anyone isn’t appreciating us, we’re giving to get appreciation. Only people who give in order to get expect to be appreciated, and they’re disappointed when they’re not appreciated.
If someone you love isn’t speaking to you and the old song gets loud, join me on Saturday for my Deep Dive Workshop, When Someone You Love Won’t Speak to You, where we learn to stop taking the silence personally. And if you’re ready to release this pattern with ongoing support, join us in Masterful Living, where we do this inner healing work step by step through the year.
Let’s release the lack, the expectation, and all the giving to get, and be in the flow of Love together.
SATURDAY WORKSHOP: If someone you love has stopped speaking to you, join me this Saturday for my Deep Dive Workshop, When Someone You Love Won’t Speak to You, where we learn to peacefully hold the vision of the healed relationship. This workshop is a BONUS for anyone who is registered for Masterful Living in 2027.
What would you like to let go of or expand into next year?
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SUNDAY: Family Forgiveness – another FREE Forgiveness Workshop. The holidays are coming. Thanksgiving is only weeks away. Old resentments and family dynamics come up for healing during this last 2 months of the year. Holding onto grievances blocks our faith, trust, and capacity for Love, the only way to have more Love is to be more loving. We’ll do the healing work together.
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