So many self-help programs focus on techniques that aren’t actually helpful. In fact, they leave us feeling more dejected and more hopeless than before we started. Self-help programs are often centered around the idea that there’s something wrong with us. That’s not helpful!
For many years I really worked at behavior modification. I focused on that because I didn’t really believe it was possible for me to change the underlying causes of my behaviors. I believed that at least if I could * change the behavior then I could feel somewhat better about myself. Only it didn’t really work. And it was a lot of effort to try and control myself.
I’ve been so impressed, year after year, watching people in my Masterful Living Course as they heal things at the root cause. I say “heal it to the root, to have new fruit!”
Some folks will encourage you to have coping strategies and ways of managing things. I’ve definitely come to see that it’s much easier and faster to go for healing the behavior by healing the mind that instigates it.
Having a coping strategy doesn’t shift the mind that holds a false belief.
I don’t honestly know how to heal things at the level of the mind, but I know how to call forth a healing, to accept it, to allow it and to receive it. Spirit takes care of the how, our job is to allow.
It takes courage to be willing to let the negative habits go, because when we do, we’re changing our identification. When we let go of the habits that keep us locked into a negative view of ourselves, then we start to see ourselves as we truly are – and that’s a big shift. It often shifts everything in our life, and it brings new experiences which can be a bit disorienting and challenging – certainly they are intimidating to the ego.
Fortunately, Spirit will guide us if we allow. There’s a way out of suffering and it’s ours for the asking!
TODAY RADIO SHOW: On my radio show today my topic is Behavior Modification.
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