Repeating the same painful upsets is something a lot of people struggle with.

They often think it’s coming from the outside, and they’re a victim of it.

When that’s the belief, it’s like taking a poison, again and again.  Any recurring upset is like poison – no matter what it is.

Feeding the fire of upset is one of the most self-destructive things we can do.  I know A LOT about this because I dedicated a couple of decades of my life to that practice and I learned a lot, which is now helpful to me in sharing with others, but it also was an investment of a huge amount of my precious life, energy, time, attention in perpetuating my suffering.

I developed a “no poison policy” once I realized what I was doing and how debilitating it was.  It took me years of working with a spiritual counselor and then being a spiritual counselor and working with hundreds of people before I finally saw just how destructive feeding the flames of upset is – and how unnecessary.

The ego thought system is made up of a series of false beliefs that’s constructed like a spider’s web.  Every part of the ego’s thought system is completely false, predicated on the delusion of an illusion.  When we’re actively believing things that are false, and perpetuating those beliefs, we’re going to dedicate large amounts of our time, energy and resources to find more evidence to support our delusions.

Because our beliefs are false, no amount of evidence will suffice, because there is no actual evidence.  The premise is false and the evidence is just as false as the premise.  The ego invented fake news, fake reporting, false claims, false theories, and all of the systems of thought that perpetuate them.  It’s a big house of mirrors and cards that leads down a sinkhole of suffering.

Truth is true, always and for everyone.  Truth is liberating because it is in alignment with our divinity and the divinity of all life.

If you’re feeling upset, simply ask the Higher Holy Spirit Self to tell you the truth, and help you see the truth.

Declare your willingness to remember the truth that sets you free.

Do a 180 turn away from collecting information to support the false claims.

If you hear yourself saying something like “and another thing…” stop.  It probably doesn’t need to be said.

If you hear yourself complaining, stop talking.

If the complaints are in your thoughts, change the channel.  Start reciting a poem you know, or a prayer or even a song.  “Row row row your boat, gently down the stream.  Merrily, merrily, merrily, life is but a dream.”  That’ll work just fine.  It doesn’t need to be something fancy.  You don’t have to change the channel to a mystical download from Spirit, you can just turn your attention elsewhere.

The point is stop allowing the poison to proliferate.  

Let’s be Self-loving enough to get away from the painful, delusional thought system we made and head back home to Spirit’s liberating thought system so we can remember how to learn through Joy instead of through suffering.

I used to be willing to poison myself to punish others.  It doesn’t work, not really.  And it’s sure not worth it.  It’s about the same as investing all your wealth and health in revenge.  Revenge isn’t ever what the ego promises it will be.  That’s why there are so many movies, books and plays about the pain and suffering of revenge.

Holding onto resentment is a form of revenge.

It’s also a form of complaining.

None of which is life enhancing or happy making.

Tell the angels and the Higher Holy Spirit Self that you’d like to become aware of every opportunity to choose Love instead of self-destructive, punishing, painful and poisonous thoughts and behavior.  Ask for the maximum assistance in choosing what will support you in being loving, kind, patient and generous.

You will receive so much support that you’ll be amazed at how alive the field of Love around you is and that’s a deeply healing experience.

All of life will support you in a very active way if you allow it.

Adopt a No Poison Policy and see how things change for you.

It’s so much more fun to see how we can be supported than to complain about being a victim.

Like John Lennon and Yoko Ono said in their song, “war is over, if you want it.”  The crucifixion is over if you want it.