I became willing to be unbotherable. It took attention, but it was SO worth it!
We live in an ever-changing world. The impermanent nature of everything on planet earth is part of why we chose this experience. And, that constant change can give us a lot of reasons to be upset. It can give us a mental and emotional workout.
It’s a bit like my shape-up workout shoes. They have a rounded bottom to them and they make it less stable for me to walk, which makes me use my core more and that strengthens me. It’s the same as walking an extra 25% in terms of the benefit to my muscles. Our spiritual growth challenges are similar. They strengthen our core.
We can decide to use the life’s weather and weirdness to help us to become stronger. We can be like the trees, who receive great benefit from having the wind and elements challenging them to grow stronger and more resilient to even the harshest weather.
Nearly 30 years ago I set the intention to become unbotherable. I felt ready. It was such a great decision.
I used to torture myself, and everyone around me, by getting upset and venting. It was a SUPERSIZED waste of energy and it created so much negative backwash in my life. I didn’t realize what it was costing me at that the time. If only I could have recognized what it was costing me. I thought it was happening to me.
I used to think that getting upset was my power. I could threaten people with my upset and lord it over them. I’m so glad I’ve learned that Love is the ONLY power that there is.
I used to think that getting upset was something that happened TO me, I was the victim, so of course I was upset! Or so I thought. I’m glad to know I was wrong. I wasn’t upset for the reason that I thought.
I was upset because I wasn’t a victim, but I was choosing to believe that I was. My life is the life of God. I’m part of God. How could I EVER be a victim except in my delusional perspective?
Now, I get such strength from practicing being harmonious regardless of what’s going on.
This practice of unbotherability is not about denying how you feel, it’s about placing a much higher value on Love and Harmony than on any emotional expression.
It’s about being vigilant to work at the level of the mind and – so important – to let God do the heavy lifting.
When you’re willing, you can give all the healing to the higher power.
You will then be led and guided to opportunities to hold onto the cause of pain or to let it go. You decide. You can begin to practice the discipline of being harmonious if you’d like. It requires the willingness to be compassionate.
You’ll realize that your emotions are the by-product of your INTERPRETATION of what’s going on. You’re only upset for the meaning you made of it. No one forced that interpretation upon you. And you have the power to let it go.
Your interpretation is really your opinion.
Like the weather, opinions are always changing.
Why value what is ever-changing when you can value what is never-changing?
LOVE is constant.
Love is clear.
Love is never grasping and the active practice of Love is compassion, which leads to Harmony, which leads to self-esteem and abundance.
At some point, Harmony becomes so valuable that no opinion is worth giving it up for.
You can decide if today’s that day or not. You can choose to be unbotherable. Wouldn’t you really rather be unbotherable? Wouldn’t you rather live with an open heart? We’re taking out the trash and becoming unbotherable.
If you feel inspired, come and join me this Sunday for my workshop on Peace & Politics and we’ll work on being unbotherable together!
NEW! Deep Dive Monthly Workshop Series! Clear the mental and emotional clutter. Each month I’m offering a new workshop topic. Have you been a spiritual student who reads a lot of books, listens to a lot of podcasts (including mine) and is taking in a lot of information, but not experiencing the results you’d like? Together we will do the work you’ve been resisting!
- Clear painful habits
- Dissolve false beliefs
- Remember to laugh
- With NO judgments!
SUNDAY, Sept 29 – our workshop topic is Peace & Politics – let’s eliminate stress and worry about the election. Stressing is worry and anxiety and it does NOT help our cause. We can choose Peace and that’s what this experience is for!
LATEST ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: my topic is Healing the Habit of Self-Attack. Whenever we go to attacking another we’re completely blocking any possibility of having true happiness and Joy. It’s completely in our power to live a happy life, but we do haveto truly live A Course in Miracles. In this episode, I shares how tp put the pedal to the metal on ending self-attack and the motivation to do so. Your happiness requires the end of self-attack. Our happiness is available now!
Vote with your heart! If you’re a citizen of these great United States, I hope you’ll feel inspired to vote. If you’re not registered, you can easily register to vote online here: https://www.vote.org/register-to-vote/ Let your voice be heard because you’re here to represent God who sent you. One thing to know: Who you vote for is private, but whether you vote is public record – so if you don’t like getting phone calls, door knockers and such, once you vote they won’t be reaching out to you. If you’re someone who sends money to support your candidate, encouraging people to vote early will save time, energy and money candidates spend trying to reach them.
