Sometimes, as spiritual students we do a “spiritual bypass.” If we’re experiencing something challenging and we jump right over our feelings to get to the spiritual truth, then we’re doing a “spiritual bypass.”
When our feelings don’t seem very spiritual there’s a temptation to jump up into our head and intellectualize our experience rather than just have our feelings. That’s when we’re responding from the intellect, engaged by the ego, and thinking of what’s right and wrong, looking to fix things. It’s not helpful. And our feelings can help us recognize what we’re doing so we can make a higher choice.
I’ve had to learn how to respond with compassion rather than judgment. There can be an undercurrent of seeing someone as needing fixing, and needing help. I’ve learned how to respond with my heart rather than the intellect. My emotions of upset help me to recognize that I’m not in alignment and I can make a higher choice – and that’s me actively being more loving with myself – which brings forth healing.
Recognizing my feelings brings a healing.
It takes a great willingness to be present and to be vulnerable in order to respond with the heart rather than the intellect. All it requires is our willingness to let Spirit lead us. It’s enough to just be willing to be willing to be willing. A little willingness is enough. Isn’t that great news?
Have you ever felt that someone came to you with their suffering and you went right into fixing them, and right into the intellect? I have. I’ve experienced it being done to me and I have done it to others and both feel painful.
When we don’t have compassion for our own suffering then we treat others the way we treat ourselves – seeing them as having a problem that needs to be fixed. They usually respond with feeling hurt and offended.
In this way, we get to see how we’re treating ourselves and why we’re so unhappy. We can witness how it feels to be treated as though we have a problem and are defective by observing how others feel when we talk with them from our intellect to their intellect rather than heart to heart.
Have you ever berated yourself when you’re having a difficult time and felt afraid? I have.
Isn’t it crazy that we would ever think for one second that chastising ourselves would somehow be a worthwhile choice?
Have you ever “should” all over someone because of your own insecurities? I HAVE!
And I’ve done it to myself! Most of us have tried to manipulate ourselves with the “shoulds.
As I said, I had to LEARN how to respond with Love and compassion.
It’s worth learning.
It wasn’t easy for me.
It’s worth learning.
If you can relate, be willing to pay attention next time someone comes to you for comfort, and notice if you go to your heart or the intellect.
Do you try to fix them or solve their problem? Or do you love and accept them where they are?
If you chose “fix them” then you can recognize that you’re actually affirming they have a problem. This is why they might reject that judgment and in the process it may seem like they’re rejecting you.
This has been a HUGE learning for me, and I’m so grateful I can share it.
Our feelings help us to recognize what’s really going on. Live and learn! Learn to Live!
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