I used to be a mean person a lot of the time. And it taught me a lot of negative lessons that are helpful to me now.
One thing is that people who are mean are in a lot of pain and they can’t think straight. They need a lot of compassion to help them get back on track, which means getting into their heart.
A second thing is, don’t put up with their meanness. Call them on it every time. If you don’t help them interrupt the pattern, then you’re helping them perpetuate it. Think about that. Is that something you really wish to be responsible for? Perpetuating more meanness? No, of course not.
So find the heart-strength to interrupt the pattern.
Stand in your loving heart.
Be on a mission from Love itself.
That’s the only way to do this – and don’t kid yourself.
Don’t be righteous in any way.
Be committed to bringing the darkness to the Light of Love.
Many times, it can be enough to break the pattern or the spell of someone’s mean comment to simply ask them what they mean by that. But we can’t ask from a position of defensiveness, because that’s really only a different kind of attack.
We’re asking for clarification for one purpose, and that’s to assist them in coming into their heart to FEEL the meaning of their words and actions so they can look at it and, perhaps, choose to go the other way.
Life gives us opportunities like this to assist our brothers and sisters, and we can develop the heart-strength, and the spiritual capacity to be truly helpful. It only works when we’re there to represent God who sent us. We don’t have to play small anymore and we don’t have to accept other people’s meanness. We also don’t have to defend ourselves or attack back.
The compassionate and loving choice is the healing choice – and sometimes that means walking away without engaging.
I’ve learned not to make these decisions from the level of the personality, but to turn it over and proceed as divinely directed. We all have access to higher wisdom and we can learn to live by it. That’s what we’re being trained to do.
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LATEST PODCAST EPISODE: my podcast’s topic is Are We Avoiding Healing? Each of us is avoiding healing in a number of ways, but some of those ways may not be obvious. When we can get more clarity and see the avoidance for what it is, we can shift and change, we can go the other way and the healing comes pouring through. In this episode, I offer simple ways that I shifted my perspective to activate healing opportunities every day – and that made all the difference. Every day is a day of healing and transformation when we’re willing!
