It used to be, that on a regular basis, I’d be around people that I found annoying. Some were slightly annoying and some were intensely annoying.

I used to think that the annoyance factor was their fault. Some people were intentionally annoying and some were unintentionally annoying.

I’ve learned a lot about my own inner annoyance meter through the gift of being a spiritual counselor and teacher.

Some people actively press other people’s buttons. It’s a common thing that insecure people actively do their best to annoy and irritate others so that they’ll be rejected. Once rejected, in their own mind, they go from being just a loser to being RIGHT about being a loser.

Once they feel convinced they’re right, they don’t have to push so hard. Sometimes when we’re really nice and loving to someone who has a low self-image they can’t handle it and have to begin pushing to get you to reject them. And, if you can be pushed to being unloving and unkind, maybe you will be. This person is helping you to see how committed you are.

Other people seem annoying to us because they’re behaving in ways we don’t like about ourselves and some people seem annoying because they’re able to express things we have denied.

For instance, someone who feels really constricted might be intensely annoyed by someone who feels very free and demonstrates it. It’s the expression of Freedom that is threatening.

I’ve noticed that all of my upsets are of my own making and it’s better if I don’t blame anyone, including myself. 100% responsibility with zero blame.

What I notice is that hardly anyone annoys me, but sometimes I do feel frustrated in certain situations that are issues I’m working through.

It’s a relief not to be annoyed by other people anymore. I didn’t see that coming!

Spiritual practice brings so many benefits. It’s extraordinary. There are hidden benefits and amazing very noticeable benefits and I’d like to claim them all!