I used to need to make other people wrong in order to feel better about myself.

And I didn’t understand that every time I chose to act that way and be that way, later I would feel terrible about myself. I didn’t understand that boomerang effect at all.

So many of us are generating the experiences that lead us to affirm that we’re horrible people – and that doesn’t feel good at all.

We don’t even see the connection between our thoughts and our feelings..

Here’s what helped me see it correctly: People who have insistences about things – needing to make others wrong in order to feel better about themselves find out it doesn’t work.  None of that makes them happy. I see that so clearly now because I used to be exactly that way.

The need to be right, and the need to make others wrong – it’s all a setup. Everyone loses.  All boats sink on this tide of low vibe.

I’ve learned the power of just letting things be. If people wish to go to a restaurant I wouldn’t choose, okay. If they’d like to decorate a room differently than I would, fine. If things aren’t my way, how do I benefit from insisting and making a big deal about it?

I don’t.

Now, this doesn’t mean being a pushover. If people say, “What about doing this?” and I don’t wish to do that, I say no. I don’t have a problem speaking up and sharing my preferences.

And at the same time, if things aren’t my way, I’ve learned there’s no benefit in making others wrong about it.

Sometimes being loving does mean setting a boundary. Just the other day, when someone in my family started being sarcastic and pushing buttons, I said, “Well, now you’re being disrespectful, and I don’t want that in our relationship. It’s not good for us. So let’s just leave it here.”

I wasn’t telling them what to do. I was just suggesting the reasonable thing – to not continue down a path that would hurt us both.

And I could see – oh, they wanted to continue. But I said, “Let’s not continue this. It’s not good for our relationship.”

This is such a different approach than needing to make them wrong, needing to punish, needing them to feel bad and guilty and ashamed.

We’re living a life of Love. Day by day and moment by moment.

In my Masterful Living Program, we practice this – being clear without being unkind. Speaking truth without attack.  We can break the old habits of attack and defend and live in a  joyful way.  It’s contagious.  And it’s truly helpful.

We can do this!

SATURDAY: Join me for a FREE Forgiveness Workshop this Saturday and discover how simple it is to see through the ego’s games. You’ve believed these tricks long enough. Today, choose to see the truth that sets you free.

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NEW ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: The Christmas Darkness That Haunted Me for 40 Years in this episode of A Course in Miracles: Living the Love, Walking the Talk, I share something too personal for my daily blog—how Christmas brought crushing darkness for 40 years until last winter’s breakthrough. From my morning in Maine, I reveal the 1985 trauma I finally connected to this pattern and the surprising Chapter 31 principle that dissolved it. You’ll discover why I’m experiencing the reverse this December and the misunderstood truth about “100% responsibility” that changes everything. If holidays haunt you, this holds unexpected keys.