When we put our faith in somebody else’s ego, we’re setting ourselves up for disappointment – every time. And when we put our faith in our own ego, we’re setting ourselves up for exhaustion.
Here’s what I’ve learned: ego is designed to disappoint.
It’s literally not capable of providing the security, love, or peace we’re seeking. It can give us the appearance of these things, but it can’t deliver the real experience.
When people are identified with their ego and operating from that place, they create dysfunction, mess, confusion, and drama. That’s what ego does. It’s not their fault – they’re just caught up in a mistaken identity. In this way, we’re all the same.
But here’s where it gets tricky: when we place our faith in other people’s egos and then get disappointed, what do we usually do? We get angry at them for not being something they were never designed to be.
It’s like getting upset with a fish for not being able to fly. The fish isn’t broken – it’s not a bird.
The same dynamic happens when we place our faith in our own ego. We expect our ego to provide us with lasting happiness, security, and love. But ego doesn’t include any of those things. Ego can give us temporary success, momentary pleasure, the appearance of control – but it can’t give us what our heart is really longing for.
When we place our faith in Spirit, in Love, in the truth of who we are, everything changes. Not because the external circumstances necessarily change, but because we remember that our well-being doesn’t depend on external circumstances.
A Course in Miracles tells us that “there is no problem in any situation that faith will not solve.”
But that’s faith placed in Love, not faith placed in ego.
I spent years putting my faith in people’s egos – including my own – and wondering why I kept getting hurt and disappointed. I was expecting flowers from a rock garden.
The moment I started consistently placing my faith in the Love that operates through people rather than in their personalities and performances, my relationships transformed. I stopped taking things personally. I stopped trying to change people.
I started seeing their ego reactions as calls for love rather than attacks on me.
This doesn’t mean we become doormats or accept abusive behavior. It means we stop expecting ego to be what it isn’t, and we start turning to the source that can actually provide what we need.
Where are you placing your faith today? In the temporary or the eternal? In fear or in Love?
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