Have you ever been a fake friend? I have. I can remember that I used to pretend to be friends with people I really didn’t care about. Now, as I look back, I wonder what was that really all about?
I lived with a lot of SHOULDS hanging over me. In fact, my life was mostly shoulds. I was often telling myself:
You should do that.
You shouldn’t do this.
Should, should, shoulding all over myself and everyone else.
That’s what the judging mind does. Should is a kind of attack thought.
Wishing it were different, thinking that it SHOULD be different is a major pre-occupation of the ego.
Thinking that I SHOULD be friends with someone led me to collect some fake friends. Fake friends were people I felt obligated to hang out with, but that I actually had zero interest in. How crazy is that? They had some kind of connection I wanted to something I thought I needed. I was willing to invest huge amounts of time, energy, effort and money into maintaining fake friendships.
I remember feeling that there was some “rule” about how often to get together and I made sure I was operating within the rules. it was all about how people perceived me, what I projected and my own self-perception.
The more I opened my spiritual practice to include my whole life, the more those fake friends fell away. Obligations fell away. I gave myself permission to choose from Love and that transformed everything.
People know when you’re not really with them in your heart. Why behave in a false way? Doesn’t that just reinforce lack, fear, the value of appearances. Let us all be whole heartedly available to LOVE fully and completely in each moment.
It’s never too late to start over. Give the Higher Holy Spirit Self the heavy lifting and relax into the healing!
Yesterday we launched the Living A Course in Miracles class series on Holy Relationships and our topic was having a Holy Relationship with Friends. Our class with Dov Fishman yesterday was EXCELLENT. Can you tell that I’m so inspired to share today in the Homework Class? Won’t you join me? Classes are free – but you do have to register. Please click here to register now!
