I can remember when I was in my 20’s I had a collection of friends that I (mostly) loved and I really clung to them. My friends were my spiritual family, so to speak. I had a lot of complainers in my life. My friends were mostly people who would join me in being critical and judging of the world. Like attracts like. They were like me. Of course they were.
I worked in the theatre and most of my friends did too. In fact we worked together. We had all trained our minds to be highly critical – particularly theatre criticism – and we applied it to everything.
We were very sarcastic. I was very sarcastic. I thought it was a talent, a skill that I was good at. I could use it to make people laugh, to threaten, to warn, or to injure according to my level of fear in the moment.
Then, I started to discover my connection with the I AM, my Higher Holy Spirit Self, and I started to recognize that the sarcasm was deadly to my connection with Spirit and I made a decision to eliminate it. I began to become aware of how much anger, resentment, fear, shame and every other negative belief was encoded into that sarcasm. I realized that if I wished to make mine a loving life, I had to stop and go cold turkey to the best of my ability. I was an addict. I was addicted to thinking angry thoughts.
After a few years of cleaning out my mind, my heart and habits, my dearest and oldest friend said to me “you used to be a lot more funny.”
I said, “it’s true. I used to be really sarcastic. I found out that sarcasm was ruining my life, so I stopped it.”
She said, “I miss it.”
I understood. I still do. I was REALLY good at being sarcastic. I got a lot of laughs, a lot of praise and people really praised me for it. But it didn’t FEEL good. And I was tired of making myself feel sick. I used to go too far and hurt people, and I had to live with it.
If you pay attention, you’ll notice that sarcasm always breaks the intimacy. It is always an expression of the ego. It always shifts the energy out of Love and compassion to separation. Sarcasm is attack. The attacker always feels attacked. Who really wants to feel afraid of attack all the time?
I was often willing to hurt people in order to get the laugh and be seen as clever. I loved being special.
I’m not interested in being special anymore. I’m interested in seeing the beauty in everything and in everyone.
I’m so grateful for every friend I’ve ever had and for all of those to come. I’ve been thinking about my friendships a lot this week because we launched the Living A Course in Miracles class series on Holy Relationships and our topic was having a Holy Relationship with Friends.
The replays for my Holy Relationship with Friends class is on right now and you can listen to it! Our class with Dov Fishman was EXCELLENT. I loved the Homework Class I did yesterday. The replays are on right now and you can listen to them! Won’t you join me? Classes are free – but you do have to register. Please click here to register now!
