I used to poke people with my unkind thoughts. I used to be very sarcastic. Now, I’m aware that it was because I felt deeply insecure. They can’t help themselves. I believed that if people really knew me they’d reject me and so I preferred to reject them first. Sigh. I’m glad that part of this life is over.
Sometimes folks who feel insecure will poke and poke others to agitate and get them to reject them.
It’s classic. I’ve got folks in my life who do that. I love them and accept them as they are, even though at times their personality feels tiresome.
People who have abandonment issues will push others away. We do all these crazy things to prove that what we believe is true. That’s one of the most confounding aspects of life in this world.
STILL, none of this insanity is Real or true – and all of this crazy behavior does NOT prove that what we believe is true.
All it proves is that we believe it and so we’re experiencing it.
“It is done unto you as you believe.”
If you REALLY look at it, what IS proved is that we’re powerful manifesters!
It can be really exhausting and even annoying (until you understand it and have compassion for it) to have someone you love pushing you away. However, once realize that it’s a cry for Love and they don’t really know what they’re doing we can drop our judgments and simply love them.
Love is our healer.
Some people have a difficult time letting you love them.
It’s like that old Woody Allen joke “I’d never join a club that would allow me to become a member.”
They don’t trust and it doesn’t feel safe. They’re anticipating rejection and so they will do their dance until you agree they aren’t worth it. They can be so insistent.
“Sensing defeat and angered by it, the ego regards itself as rejected and becomes retaliative. You are invulnerable to its retaliation because I am with you.” A Course in Miracles. T-8.V.5.
Life is filled with these experiences and as long as we don’t judge it, we’ll continue to have less and less of them. We’re here to be truly helpful.
The most helpful thing we can be is both compassionate AND having healthy boundaries.
Some people will begin to relax when they see you really do love them. And some people aren’t ready to accept it. This is when we do our work in the invisible – our prayer practice and our forgiveness. It’s powerful and life-changing.
Let’s make a quantum leap together.
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