It didn’t matter if they loved me or not – I used to think “they don’t really love me,” and of course I would feel terribly upset.
But here’s what helped me see it correctly:
The reason I couldn’t feel their Love was because I didn’t feel worthy of it.
It was that simple.
This realization made so much sense to me – and it helped me to see that when we change our mind about ourselves, other people seem to treat us differently.
After counseling people for twenty-five years, I’ve seen this pattern over and over. When people treat others badly, it’s rarely because they don’t believe that person is worthwhile.
When you drill down into it, they don’t believe themselves to be worthwhile, and they’re just projecting it out onto others.
A Course in Miracles tells us we’re never upset for the reason we think. We’re upset because of the meaning we give things.
And so many times the meaning people make is:
“You treated me badly because you think I’m not worthwhile.”
But that’s the illusion.
Here’s the deeper truth I discovered: All the pain and suffering I’ve experienced came from my own projections and perceptions.
I was investing:
- My precious life force
- My spiritual energy
- The power of Love within me
In holding myself back, living in lack and limitation—all because I wasn’t willing to give up my interpretation of things.
We make assumptions.
We create stories.
We decide what other people’s actions mean about us.
And then we suffer based on these made-up meanings.
I’ve counseled many people who are really upset, really depressed, really bothered, and they have no willingness to forgive.
They’re not willing to give up the meaning they’ve made of things. They’d rather hold onto their grievance than experience freedom.
Love is the only power that can transform these patterns.
And that’s what we’re remembering ourselves to be—a loving presence, truly helpful in this world.
The sleep of forgetfulness is only the unwillingness to remember Spirit’s forgiveness and love.
When we’re willing to forget our grievances, we remember the truth:
We are lovable.
We are loved.
We always have been.
In my Masterful Living Program, we practice seeing through these painful illusions together. We learn to question our interpretations and open to the truth of Love. We clear the blocks to Love so we can feel the Love that really is there.
Consider coming to one of my FREE Forgiveness Workshops to for releasing the meanings that keep you in pain. I’ve got three workshops this weekend – all forgiveness – all FREE
You are lovable. You always have been. Let that truth set you free from the pain of the past. Love is the only power. Align with it, and discover you can never fail.
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