I’ve really come to see that forgiving myself for my self-betrayals is one of the main things I’ve done that has helped me be happy, feel free, and transcend the limiting thoughts and beliefs that used to plague me.
A Course in Miracles tells us that betrayal by others is an illusion. It talks about self-betrayal – particularly in Chapter 16, Section 6, “The Bridge to the Real World.”
The only thing to forgive is the illusion of self-betrayal.
What does that mean, practically? It means we set ourselves up – again and again – for learning the hard way that special relationships are not fruitful. We invested our time, our energy, our money, our resources, our very lives into special relationships that were designed by the ego to keep us from awakening.
Then we blame Love.
We blame the relationship.
We blame ourselves.
“Relationship is the problem. Love is the problem. Trusting other people is the problem.”
On and on and on. We make a big case for being incapable of Love, for being especially bad, especially wrong, especially unworthy.
There’s the self-betrayal.
We have to forgive ourselves for it. We must forgive ourselves for having thought that special relationships were a worthwhile venture. We were deluded. It’s like waking up from a fog – we have to forgive ourselves in order to move on.
True forgiveness isn’t saying, “What happened is okay.” It’s saying we’re not going to judge it as bad and wrong anymore. We’re going to see it the way the Holy Spirit sees it – as part of our learning. We’re going to harvest the learning and move on.
We can’t harvest the learning until we let the judgments go.
If something from a past relationship still bothers us, we haven’t forgiven it yet. That’s the honest truth. The bandwidth that old resentment eats up is bandwidth we could use to heal our relationships, our finances, our body, our whole life.
In my Masterful Living Program, we practice this self-forgiveness work together all year long. And in our FREE Forgiveness Workshops, we learn the tools that make it possible.
Why delay our happiness anymore? Let’s get to it.
