I used to feel a searing kind of pain at family gatherings—like I had just drank battery acid.

You know that feeling? When someone gets upset and suddenly your heart and solar plexus are on fire with that horrible pain?

For years, that was my Christmas experience. Someone would get triggered (usually me), and I’d feel so awful about myself that I couldn’t bear it. So I’d project it outward—blame, attack, defend. Attack, defend. Attack, defend. What an exhausting cycle.

But here’s what made a difference for me: recognizing that I was doing it to myself. A Course in Miracles teaches us we’re never upset for the reason we think (Lesson 5). I wasn’t upset because “they didn’t love me.” I was upset because I didn’t believe I was lovable.

Then one Christmas, when a family member got triggered and upset, something miraculous happened. I immediately felt the deep innocence of everyone involved. No guilt. No blame. No shame. None of that battery acid feeling that used to consume me.  Everything had changed.

Why? Because I’ve forgiven myself for everything I can find to forgive. I did what I did. I said what I said. I felt what I felt. And now, I’m only interested in love and truth. No judgments, no complaints.

ACIM says, “You who want peace can find it only by complete forgiveness.” Complete forgiveness means detaching mentally and emotionally from the meaning you’ve given everything in this world. And all it requires? Willingness to let those attachments go.

I don’t blame people for how I feel anymore. I take responsibility for my interpretations, my feelings, my reactions. And that, beautiful souls, is liberation.

If you’re ready to transform your family dynamics, join me in Masterful Living where we actively practice these principles together. Or start with a FREE Forgiveness Workshop—because every family deserves the healing that forgiveness brings.

Your family gatherings don’t have to be painful anymore.

That searing feeling? It’s optional. The peace you’re seeking? It’s available right now, waiting for your willingness.

Ready to transform your relationship experience? Join me in Masterful Living  in 2026.  We actively live these principles and watch the miracles unfold. Because now is the time for deep healing. Now is the time to be free.

We’re at the precipice of a new cycle of 9 years beginning January 1st.  Now is the time for us to set the tone, the intention, the trajectory for the next nine years.  The work we do brings benefit to all.  We get to share all the blessings we create for ourselves.  Isn’t that wonderful?

We begin Masterful Living in January, register early, and receive beautiful bonuses.
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Here are some of the bonuses you’ll receive: 
Fresh Start:  New Year, New Vision Saturday, January 3rd.  In this live 4-hour workshop we’ll consciously lay a powerful and loving foundation for the next 9 years and a life-changing 2026.

A Life Led By Love  Starts Monday, January 5.  A 3-Part Program We’ll get into the details of the vision for the next 9 years, with a deep focus on 2026.  You’ll feel prepared for a launch into a new view of your life and your Self.

Accountability With Love, a Deep Dive Workshop on Saturday, January 17.  How to hold yourself accountable in a loving and supportive way so that you follow through on the expansive vision for your precious life of Love and don’t let your vision fall by the wayside.

New ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: The Person You Despise Is Your Great Companion In this episode of A Course in Miracles: Living the Love, Walking the Talk, I reveal why that person who disgusts you most is actually someone sacred you don’t recognize. As I feel lighter while December darkens, I’ll share my controversial Chapter 31 practice with a world leader that might shock you. You’ll discover the ancient truth about your harshest judgments and why your world anger is completely misdirected. If certain people make your skin crawl this holiday season, what I uncovered will transform how you see them forever.