Whenever I sit down with someone who feels a deep, intense betrayal and is having trouble getting over it, something reliable happens.

When they look at it more objectively and less subjectively, they begin to see that they made choices all along the way that brought them to where they are now.

They were trying to get something. They thought it was worth the risk.

In almost every case, people can see it.

“Ah. That’s when I made the decision for ego. That’s when I put my faith and trust in this person’s ego.”

That’s the choice point.

Here’s what helps us to see it correctly. While maybe we didn’t actively choose betrayal, we did choose to ignore our guidance.

We chose to ignore the guidance not to trust. Not to partner UP.

Looked at closely, the betrayal is often a betrayal of the Self. The higher Self.

Now, Spirit doesn’t judge things that way at all. The ego does.

Which means there’s a wonderful opportunity here.

Forgiveness is the release of all judgment. It’s the release of the meaning we’ve made of things.

When we skip that release, something gets lost that we may not notice for years.

When there’s no forgiveness, there’s no learning.

We stay busy blaming, so we never take responsibility, so nothing gets learned. The pattern stays intact and waits for the next opportunity to run again.

That’s not a punishment. It’s just how it works.
We’re the ones choosing not to learn.
Life is helping us by giving us another opportunity to go through the same experience and to learn something this time.

Taking responsibility isn’t the same as taking blame. Blame keeps us stuck in the story. Responsibility hands us back our power.  Blame is judgment.  Responsibility is acceptance.

Here’s the good news underneath all of it. If we chose it, we can choose differently.  We’re not a victim.  We’re powerful people who sometimes make choices that are not in our own best interest.  Sometimes we ignore the guidance.

We don’t have to learn from pain.

The Holy Spirit teaches us how to learn through Joy if we’re willing.

Many people have told me the forgiveness work is what finally let them set down something they’d carried for decades. Not by minimizing it. By seeing it truly.

If you’re grappling with a betrayal or an upset that won’t quite let go of you, my FREE Forgiveness Workshop on August 29 was made for exactly this.

It’s free, and it comes with tools you’ll use long after the workshop ends.

Follow your intuition. If it’s right for you right now, you’ll know.

We can release the meaning we made of it.

FREE FORGIVENESS WORKSHOP If you’d like to practice this kind of honest looking in community, my FREE Forgiveness Workshop on August 29 is a beautiful place to begin. Click here now to learn more and register.

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