Let’s talk about control.
You know that exhausting thing we do where we try to manage everything and everyone? Where we attempt to orchestrate outcomes, manipulate situations, and force life to bend to our will? Yeah, that thing.
Attempting to have power over everything in our lives is what controlling is.
We know it’s not working. Don’t we? But we keep trying, hoping we can MAKE it work. (We’re just trying to be helpful.) But it won’t work. And we can’t make it.
Why? Because it’s trying to get to Peace and Prosperity, Joy and happiness motivated by fear.
When our choices are driven by fear, Peace and Harmony will NEVER be the result.
I learned this the hard way. I used to be the Queen of Control. I tried to manage how people saw me, what they thought of me, how every situation would unfold, what other people thought and what they did.
I thought I knew best what others should do even when it was obvious that I didn’t.
And you know what? I was miserable. Because trying to have power OVER things isn’t power at all – it’s fear dressed up in a business suit.
Here’s what A Course in Miracles taught me: “You who have tried to keep power for yourself have ‘lost’ it.” Ouch, right? But also… liberation!
Real power – the kind that creates miracles, heals relationships, and brings lasting peace – comes from surrender.
Not giving up, but giving OVER. Giving UP ⬆️. There’s a huge difference. Give it up and then you are free.
When I finally stopped trying to manage the Universe (exhausting job, terrible hours, zero pay), something magical happened.
Life got easier. Solutions appeared that I never could have orchestrated. People showed up exactly when I needed them. Opportunities knocked that I never would have created through my controlling little plans.
Why? Because I finally got out of the Holy Spirit’s way.
Think about water flowing downhill. It doesn’t stress about which route to take. It doesn’t make spreadsheets mapping out each turn. It just flows, freely following the path of least resistance, and it ALWAYS reaches its destination.
We’re meant to flow like that water. But every time we try to control, we’re building little dams, creating resistance, making everything harder than it needs to be.
Today, practice this: When you catch yourself trying to manage an outcome, pause. Take a breath. Say, “Holy Spirit, I give this to You. Show me Your way.”
Then – and this is crucial – actually let go. Don’t hand it over and then snatch it back five minutes later (been there, done that, have the gray hairs to prove it).
I say this with so much Love – trust that the Power that created galaxies can handle your situation better than your worried little mind can.
Get the Fear out, and then Freedom is your natural state.
Stop managing. Start trusting. Watch miracles unfold that your controlling mind never could have imagined.
That’s REAL power.
FINDING FREEDOM FROM FEAR Starts Monday Sept 22 – Why a spiritual bootcamp? Because it works. It makes us face what we’ve been avoiding, gives us the support of like-minded souls, and helps us get in spiritual shape fast. My Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp is designed so you won’t give up – so YOU win. With 8 core classes, 50 healing toolkit videos, Freedom Posse support groups, and 3 months of Sacred Circle spiritual counseling with me, you’ll have everything needed to transform triggers into healing opportunities. If you’re willing to show up and ride the wave of group energy, this could be exactly what your soul is calling for. Trust your guidance.
SUNDAY WORKSHOP on the New Moon, Eclipse, Equinox energy!! – If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by everything happening in the world right now, you’re not alone. Many of us are watching family members struggle, feeling extra anxiety about finances, or simply carrying a heaviness in our hearts as fear rises to the surface. On Sunday, September 21st, I’m offering a Deep Dive Workshop called “Staying Grounded In Love – No Matter What!” where we’ll practice anchoring in Love when chaos strikes and remember our true purpose—to be truly helpful, not reactive. We’ll harness the powerful energy of the New Moon, Solar Eclipse, and Equinox for a spiritual reset. This isn’t about pretending everything is fine or slapping affirmations on fear—it’s about practical tools that work when life feels unmanageable. If you’re ready to be the calm in the storm and live from Love instead of fear, join us at 3 PM Eastern. Let’s remember together who we really are and why we’re here.
NEW ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: my topic is Your Pain Is Optional: The Radical Truth About Suffering.In this episode, I explore the challenging yet liberating teaching from ACIM Lesson 152 that no one suffers without their own decision – a truth that confronted me more than anything else in my spiritual journey. I share how this teaching, while difficult to accept when facing loss or tragedy, became my path to complete freedom from fear and suffering. Through personal stories and practical examples, I demonstrate how we can take responsibility without blame, recognize our eternal innocence regardless of circumstances, and access the peace that’s always available when we choose truth over the stories our ego tells us.
