Let’s look at that thing you’re going through – the one that feels unfair, painful, wrong.

What if it’s actually a gift?

I’m not doing spiritual bypassing or telling you to “just think positive.” I’m sharing something profound that changed how I see everything: contrast is how we learn to choose again.

Remember Scrooge in A Christmas Carol? He became the best keeper of Christmas in all of London. Why? Because he KNEW the contrast.

He knew the cold isolation of withholding love.
He felt the weight of resentment.
He experienced the poverty of a closed heart.

Without that contrast, his generosity would have just been nice. With it? It became a conscious choice, a celebration, a daily decision to choose love over fear.

Your contrast is serving the same purpose.

That relationship that went sideways?
It’s showing you what you DON’T want so you can choose what you DO want.

That job that’s sucking your soul?
It’s clarifying what actually matters to you.

That health scare?
It’s revealing how precious this moment is.

I used to think my years of unhappiness were wasted time. Now I see them as my PhD in compassion. I can sit with someone in their darkest moment because I’ve furnished that room.

I know where the light switches are because I fumbled for them in my own darkness.

Here’s how to work with contrast instead of against it:

1. Stop asking “Why me?” Start asking “What is this showing me?”
2. Look for the opposite of what you’re experiencing. If you’re feeling unloved, it’s highlighting your deep desire TO love and BE loved. If you’re experiencing lack, it’s clarifying your readiness for abundance.
3. Thank the contrast. Yes, really. “Thank you for showing me what I don’t want so clearly that I can now choose what I do want.”
4. Make a new choice. Don’t wait. You can choose now, even if circumstances haven’t changed yet.

I’m not saying pretend it doesn’t hurt. Feel what you feel. 

But also recognize that this contrast isn’t punishment – it’s preparation. You’re being prepared to hold more light because you’ve known the darkness.

Every master teacher has furnised the rooms of despair. That’s how they can guide others out.

Your contrast is creating your compassion.

Your mess is becoming your message.

Choose again. The contrast has shown you the way.

FINDING FREEDOM FROM FEAR Starts Monday Sept 22 – Why a spiritual bootcamp? Because it works. It makes us face what we’ve been avoiding, gives us the support of like-minded souls, and helps us get in spiritual shape fast. My Finding Freedom From Fear Spiritual Bootcamp is designed so you won’t give up – so YOU win. With 8 core classes, 50 healing toolkit videos, Freedom Posse support groups, and 3 months of Sacred Circle spiritual counseling with me, you’ll have everything needed to transform triggers into healing opportunities. If you’re willing to show up and ride the wave of group energy, this could be exactly what your soul is calling for. Trust your guidance.

SUNDAY WORKSHOP on the New Moon, Eclipse, Equinox energy!!  – If you find yourself feeling overwhelmed by everything happening in the world right now, you’re not alone. Many of us are watching family members struggle, feeling extra anxiety about finances, or simply carrying a heaviness in our hearts as fear rises to the surface. On Sunday, September 21st, I’m offering a Deep Dive Workshop called “Staying Grounded In Love – No Matter What!” where we’ll practice anchoring in Love when chaos strikes and remember our true purpose—to be truly helpful, not reactive. We’ll harness the powerful energy of the New Moon, Solar Eclipse, and Equinox for a spiritual reset. This isn’t about pretending everything is fine or slapping affirmations on fear—it’s about practical tools that work when life feels unmanageable. If you’re ready to be the calm in the storm and live from Love instead of fear, join us at 3 PM Eastern. Let’s remember together who we really are and why we’re here.

NEW ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: my topic is Your Pain Is Optional: The Radical Truth About Suffering.In this episode, I explore the challenging yet liberating teaching from ACIM Lesson 152 that no one suffers without their own decision – a truth that confronted me more than anything else in my spiritual journey. I share how this teaching, while difficult to accept when facing loss or tragedy, became my path to complete freedom from fear and suffering. Through personal stories and practical examples, I demonstrate how we can take responsibility without blame, recognize our eternal innocence regardless of circumstances, and access the peace that’s always available when we choose truth over the stories our ego tells us.