Why Self-Care Is Never Selfish

“You do so much, Jennifer. Make sure you take care of yourself.”

People say this to me often, with genuine care and concern. And I smile because here’s the thing: I ALWAYS take care of myself. Always. Not sometimes. Not when I remember. Always.

The Kingdom Perspective

Here’s what made a difference for me: understanding that everything I do for myself, I do for the kingdom. For the Sonship. Because there’s only one of us here.

A Course in Miracles teaches us “To have, give all to all.”

Yet, we can’t give from an empty cup.
We can’t teach abundance while demonstrating lack.
We can’t teach self-love while practicing self-neglect.

There’s no sacrifice here. When I take good care of myself, I’m teaching everyone around me that they’re worthy of good care too.

What Self-Care Really Looks Like

Some days, the highest level of self-care is recording a podcast episode. The joy of sharing, of connecting with you, of being in that “super duper yummy zone” of Spirit—that fills my cup to overflowing.

Other days, it’s an extra walk with the dogs. Or saying no to something that doesn’t align. Or taking time for silence.  It’s a long hot bath or making cookies for a friend.

The key? It’s not the same every day. Self-care isn’t a rigid formula. It’s a moment-by-moment listening to what serves the highest good—which includes MY good, because my good and yours are inseparable.

We Cannot Teach Sacrifice

ACIM tells us, “God is more than you only because God created you. But not even this would God keep from you.” If God doesn’t withhold from us, why would we withhold from ourselves?

I cannot teach lack and limitation.
I won’t teach that spiritual service means depletion.
That’s the old paradigm, and we’re done with it.

Our Permission Slip

If you’ve been waiting for permission to take exquisite care of yourself, here it is. Your self-care serves everyone. Your joy uplifts the world. Your peace extends to all minds.

In my Masterful Living Program, we learn to put self-care at the top of the list—not from ego, but from the recognition that we’re teaching by demonstration.

What would change if you knew your self-care was an act of service?
What would you do differently this very day?

When we view ourselves as connected with all beings, all humanity, all life and all of God, then we will naturally be kinder and more supportive of our Self, our body and that’s being the living example.  That’s teaching only Love.

I’ve been training spiritual counselors in my Quantum Counseling Training Program for over a decade and I see that one of the results of the training is the growth in consciousness counselors has naturally leads them to care for themselves and their body with more Love.  This leads to healing in many unexpected ways and it’s all quite natural and quite miraculous!

In my Quantum Counseling Training Intensive, the main thing we work on is eliminating worthiness issues so that people can live their calling, help more people, be more prosperous and share their gifts and talents in ways that are profoundly healing to themselves and others.

My next Quantum Counseling Training Intensive begins Friday, October 31.

This intensive training is for you if:

• You have an interest in seeing if spiritual counseling is a possible career for you.
• You’d like to improve your counseling and compassionate listening skills.
• You’d just like to build your confidence and Self-esteem.
• You’d like to increase your intuition.
• You’d like to get continuing education or licensing units.