One of the most common questions we ask when we’re struggling is “Why did this happen to me?” And sometimes it’s like this: “why, God? Why? Why me?”
It seems natural – we want to understand our pain because we think if we understand it then we can heal it. But here’s what might surprise you: asking “why” actually keeps us stuck.
Our Higher Holy Spirit Self already knows exactly why things happened and precisely how to heal them.
The one that’s asking “why” is our ego-identified personality – the small, selfish self that feels separate and confused. This false self will never understand the deeper spiritual reasons behind our experiences.
Think about it: when we’re operating from our Higher Holy Spirit Self – when we’re connected to Love, Wisdom, and inner knowing – do we spend time analyzing why things went wrong? Or are we simply present, peaceful, and naturally guided toward right action?
The “why” question comes from the belief we’re powerless.
It assumes that understanding the cause will somehow give us control. But trying to intellectually figure out our pain is like trying to perform surgery on ourselves – we’re using the wrong tool for the job.
Instead of asking “why,” let’s try this: “I’m willing to let this go.” We don’t need to understand the sticky icky spider web of past experiences, family patterns, or karmic reasons that led to our current situation. We just need to be willing to release our attachment to the story about it.
Our healing doesn’t require a detailed analysis of our pain. It requires our willingness to stop picking at it.
When we stop trying to understand why we’re suffering and start focusing on our willingness to be free, something beautiful happens: the part of us that actually does know how to heal gets to take over.
Our Higher Holy Spirit Self doesn’t need to explain anything to our personality. It just needs our permission to release the root causes of pain.
Freedom is simpler than we think – it does require our choosing Freedom but it doesn’t require our understanding it or our suffering.
Love is the cure for Self-doubt. It also cures victimhood. There’s no other way. Love IS THE way. No confidence in ourselves for all our gifts and talents, for our success in the world will cure the self-doubt – only releasing the causes of self-doubt will eliminate self-doubt, but Love will. We can only do this through true forgiveness. And then we can be truly helpful to others too. I’ve got a FREE Forgiveness Workshop this Saturday, July 12 – please come and tell a friend or ten. Click here now to learn more.
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LATEST ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: my topic is Knowing Oneness and Unity. A Course in Miracles is about liberating from the false belief of thinking we’re separate, on our own, and disconnected from God. It’s about remembering the unity of all life. In this week’s episode I share what has really worked for me to help me recognize, and really feel connected to all. We’re one with each other whether we realize it or not.
