We all know people who are still fighting battles that ended years ago, still carrying wounds that have long since healed everywhere except in their minds. The tragedy isn’t what happened to them – it’s that they’ve sentenced themselves to a life of reliving it. I’ve been there – maybe you have too.
Unforgiveness is the most consuming investment of our time, energy, and attention imaginable. It’s like voluntarily carrying a backpack full of rocks everywhere we go, then wondering why we’re so tired all the time.
Every resentment we hold requires maintenance – we have to feed it with our thoughts, nurture it with our attention, and defend it with our righteousness.
But here’s what we’ve discovered: the prison door has been unlocked this whole time.
We are not victims of our past – we are volunteers in our own suffering.
The moment we truly understand this, everything changes.
When we forgive, we stop being professional victims and become students of life instead. We start asking “What can I learn from this?” instead of “Why did this happen to me?” That shift in perspective opens up possibilities we never could have imagined while we were busy being right about being wronged.
Forgiveness reveals that we are responsible for what we see. Not responsible for what happened, but responsible for how we choose to hold it now. This isn’t a burden – it’s our power. It means we don’t have to wait for anyone else to change, apologize, or make things right. Our freedom is entirely in our own hands.
The most profound liberation comes when we realize that forgiveness isn’t something we do for other people – it’s something we do for ourselves. We’re not letting them “off the hook” – we’re getting ourselves off the hook of being forever defined by what someone else did.
When we truly forgive, we discover that our greatest wounds were actually our greatest teachers. The very experiences that seemed to break us were actually breaking us open to more love, more compassion, more wisdom. But we can only see this gift when we’re no longer too busy being angry to unwrap it.
Every day we spend in unforgiveness is a day we’re not fully alive.
Every moment we hold onto resentment is a moment we’re choosing the past over the present.
We deserve better than that – and so does everyone whose life we touch.
TODAY: I’ve got a FREE Forgiveness Workshop TODAY Saturday, July 12 – please come and tell a friend or ten. Click here now to learn more. Forgiveness is the cure for Self-doubt. It also cures victimhood. There’s no faster way. Releasing the causes of self-doubt will eliminate self-doubt, but Love will. We can only do this through true forgiveness. And then we can be truly helpful to others too.
This month my Deep Dive Workshop is Unblock the flow of Time, Energy & Money Join me NEXT Saturday, July 19. If you have issues that trigger you emotionally, causing worry, fear or doubt, this workshop is for you. We can break that habit of fear and worry, doubt and damage. Let’s do it together! I used to STRESS SO MUCH about not having enough of all kinds of things and being free of all that worry is such a game changer – now I invest my energy in things that are actually worthwhile – like FREE Forgiveness Workshops!
LATEST ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: my topic is Knowing Oneness and Unity. A Course in Miracles is about liberating from the false belief of thinking we’re separate, on our own, and disconnected from God. It’s about remembering the unity of all life. In this week’s episode I share what has really worked for me to help me recognize, and really feel connected to all. We’re one with each other whether we realize it or not.
