Have you ever felt unappreciated? I mean, who hasn’t?
What I’ve found is that if we’re feeling unappreciated it’s likely because we’re giving what no one is asking for. We are probably giving to people in order to get something from them. It could be we’re looking for Love, recognition, validation or any number of things.
Giving to get is a form of manipulation and trying to control.
Sometimes folks who over-give feel taken advantage of.
It’s helpful to remember that no one can be taken advantage of without their agreement. We have to participate for someone to take advantage of us.
I used to be an over-giver. I’d give to depletion. I saw it all around me in spiritual community. The model of the over-giver came from the belief: “this is what being super spiritual looks like.”
It took me some time, but I realized that this over-giving isn’t healthy and it’s actually affirming the ego belief of our unworthiness.
No one who over-gives feels good about themselves.
We over-give because we’re trying to get something in return. We’re looking to get some sense of feeling full instead of living with the deep fulfillment of living a balanced life.
In my programs I share about giving and receiving because that’s such a fundamental aspect of life. And you know what’s a wonderful thing I see with folks who practice this work deeply? More prosperity and abundance.
They stop giving in order to get something in return, and instead give from the overflow in their heart.
It comes back to them multiplied.
How many of us were consciously taught about giving and receiving? It doesn’t seem like there are very many who really are conscious about giving and receiving.
For spiritual students, they’ve heard that giving is better than receiving, but I am grateful to report that can’t possibly be true. The only place there is to receive from is Spirit. So, in some ways it’s more vital to be able to receive well from Spirit. Without that we won’t have ANYTHING to give that’s worth having.
Let’s live without manipulation. Manipulation is artificial, and imposed by the ego thought system. It’s an old paradigm. We can have so much more without it. Love doesn’t manipulate. Love simply gives without attachment. We can live that way. Are you with me?
