In Masterful Living class one time we were talking about how beautiful it is to realize that we no longer need to be right about everything. Instead of fighting for being right again and again and again in our most intimate relationships, we can choose to simply acknowledge the other person’s perspective and give thanks for it.
When we’re insecure, and don’t feel worthy then when others disagree with us we’ll take it personally. Their disagreement or disapproval is another brick in the wall of our separation from being good. We have to prove we’re right. Sometimes we can actually become so argumentative and intense that we will go all the way in fighting for how right we are that we actually demonstrate how wrong we are in our thinking.
One of the recent Golden Globe and People’s Choice awards shows big winners was the Netflix series Beef. The two main actors both won awards. I thought the show was excellent, but I found it very hard to watch. If it weren’t so compelling and so well done, I couldn’t have stood to watch it.
The series is about two very insecure people who get into a disagreement that then becomes an over the top series of revenge choices. Their deep insecurity and fear has them losing all perspective and acting in ways that are insane. The portrayals are so believable that it sucks you in to see if they’ll self-destruct, kill each other or come back into their right mind. It’s an absolute ego nightmare that’s compelling.
It’s also a powerful reminder of what a truly wonderful thing it is when we can graciously accept other people’s points of view without needing to add our own or change theirs if we don’t agree. We can just allow things to be as they are and enjoy the Peace. When we can take responsibility for our feelings, own our missteps, and have compassion for ourselves as well as others then we can know the Peace of God. There’s nothing I can think of that’s more worth having and doing and being in this world than Peace.
I’ve seen such remarkable changes in my relationships, particularly my family, but also my friendships. By no longer having contentious conversations we’re able to enjoy each other and the flow of Love is much more palpable. Sometimes folks in my life don’t have the capacity to not be antagonistic in that moment, but if I can extend compassion to them, then things can de-escalate. And that, my friend, is a true sense of being tapped into the Power of Love.
People feel so much more loved and accepted when we aren’t making them wrong a lot of the time – even when they’re wrong minded. This is a lot of what my programs are about: living the Power of Love.
If you’d like to really have more Love in your life, make a strong commitment to end the need to be right.
It doesn’t matter very much when we’re right, but it matters a whole lot when we can be loving.
When we’re loving, we’re always going to feel good about ourselves. Let’s choose to be loving. It’s really worth it!
NEW PODCAST EPISODE! The most recent episode of my podcast’s topic is Seeing Ourselves Correctly. Suffering is the result of holding the wrong view, false belief, attack thought closely and investing in it. The most common issue we have is seeing ourselves as less than lovable. In this week’s episode, I share how I corrected my self-hatred and sense of being forever wrong and bad. Practical tools and tips to apply ACIM and free your mind!
