I was sharing about this in Sundays With Spirit this past Sunday, and also in the Family Forgiveness Workshop last Saturday – it’s one of the best realizations I’ve had about how to have healing in my relationships.

See, I used to be an award-winning grudge holder – that is, if they gave awards for things like that, but there are no awards and no rewards for holding grievances.

I employed a lot of the classic techniques that absolutely degrade and destroy the quality of our relationships.

For example:

• I’d withhold Love and connection to punish people when I was upset or threatened
• I’d be mean and snarky and say unkind things
• I’d ignore people and refuse to acknowledge them to teach them a lesson

All of  that behavior just affirmed my own negative thoughts about myself.  I felt like a bad person and I acted like one too.

I acted like a bad person because I felt threatened and I was trying to protect myself.

The more threatened I felt, the more I’d behave in a fearful and unloving way.  I felt so weak.

And then I began to find my power again through being willing to do the thing that I could never do before – I could take responsibility for what I did, and said and felt and stop blaming others.  That was a miracle to me.  It changed so much.

That’s why, when I saw the “Responsibility for Sight” section in A Course in Miracles, I knew immediately that was the secret sauce!

I learned the power of going first in a difficult situation – and by that I mean, being the first one to say, “I’m sorry.”

Or being the first one to say, I wish I hadn’t said that.

Or let’s not do this. Or anything that would simply let the person know that I had the humility to admit I was wrong, or to simply not run away after saying something awful.  I learned to stop the fight or flight.  I finally had some real courage.

Going first was a super power that I really appreciated being able to test and explore and it was powerful!

As we’re coming into the holidays, with Thanksgiving next week, let’s be willing to go first and to take responsibility so we can have miracles to share.

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