When we compare ourselves to others we’re heading down a path of despair. That’s a habit that many have. It’s a habit of self-punishment and self-attack. It’s a form of self-sabotage.
The world says it’s ego and hubris to think you’re ALL THAT. It’s not true. Your GREATNESS, your magnificence is a given. Everyone’s got magnificence whether they express it or not.
It’s ego to think that you’re less than that. Pure ego is thinking that someone is better and someone is worse.
Good, better, best thinking is ego competition.
The world’s very best computer programmer is not a better person than the world’s worst ice skater.
There’s not even a BETTER you – there is only the TRUE YOU.
Being the TRUE YOU is the best job, the best place and the home base for us all. Only you can be the true you and there’s no comparison – ever!
I used to be so competitive. And that was all about compare and despair. I love to play board games and card games. It’s something many of my family have in common with me. I remember loving to play Monopoly when I was pretty young.
I also remember just how competitive I used to feel and how it was an intense emotional experience. I used to get really upset if I made a “bad” move, or if I missed an opportunity. I’d get really upset about the game if I didn’t play well.
What I love now is being able to enjoy myself just as much regardless of who wins or who loses. It really is the joy of playing that matters. I love being able to have time with my loved ones and to be playful. I enjoy the strategy. Sometimes I win the game and sometimes I lose. I don’t have a better time when I’m winning. I never would have imagined that was possible before.
In my classes, folks sometimes share about the pain and suffering they experience when they compare themselves to others.
We say, “compare and despair.”
There’s no point in comparing. None. It always leads to a sense of lack and limitation and hence the despair.
Comparison is a trick of the ego to help you feel more separate. It always leads to suffering. It doesn’t matter if you compare and think you’ve come out ahead or you’re lacking – since there’s only one, either way you just feel more separate.
My invitation is to look at the habit of comparing and despairing and to simply give it over to the Higher Holy Spirit Self to do the heavy lifting.
Life is a lot more fun without comparisons – they’re completely unnecessary and unhelpful most of the time. Give it up! Instead, celebrate what we have in common – for all of us, our true nature is perfect Love. Let’s celebrate what unites us and feel the unity!
Take a few minutes to think about any habit you have of comparing yourself to others. It’s an emotional poison. Are you really interested in poisoning yourself? Give that habit to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing and use your energy to LOVE and appreciate yourself instead. Self-Love is healing, judgment is not.
Which do you prefer?
Compare and despair.
or Praise and be raised?
When comparison creeps into your thinking go the other way and choose to praise and be raised!
Gratitude is a healing practice that lifts us high.
