How many of us have been taught to fight fairly? How many of us have ever seen it? Did your parents argue or fight fairly? Did their parents?   I used to argue with myself, sometimes I’d argue with with a family member, or a friend. 

I learned how to fight fairly, honestly and lovingly–truly, I did.

I know because I remember when I didn’t. I know that feeling in my gut when I’ve said or heard something hurtful or blaming.  I’m grateful for that pain because it reminded me to choose Love.  

Now, I have the strength to refrain from being hurtful.  And that’s part of why I am offering my FREE FORGIVENESS CLASS tomorrow.  I’d rather not fight at all.  And I’ve learned it’s not necessary.  We can discuss instead of argue.

In his book IRON JOHN, the wonderful poet Robert Bly writes, “A good fight gets things clear and I think women long to fight and be with men who know how to fight well. When both use their weapons unconsciously or without naming them, both man and woman stumble into battle, and when it is over the two interior children can be badly wounded. The adult warrior inside both men and women, when trained, can receive a blow without sulking or collapsing, knows how to fight for limited goals, keeps the rules of combat in mind, and in general is able to keep the fighting clean and to establish limits.”

Sometimes a disagreement turns into something like an argument.  Arguing is a part of everyone’s life – whether we’re a witness or a participant, but it doesn’t have to be.  

The more I do my forgiveness practice, the fewer arguments I have.  I very rarely have arguments now.  

We can have life without fights or arguing, without blame, or guilt.

We really can.  Let’s aspire to that.  Let’s truly be the Peace we’d like to see in the world.

I used to have the same repetitive arguments with the same people and it would just send me into a real sense of despair.  Forgiveness changed all that.  

I agree with the teaching in A Course In Miracles:  “Anger is never justified.”  And still, anger is experienced.  Upsets occur.  Being able to handle these outburts and challenges with love, compassion and forgiveness is what I’m interested in.  This is part of my intention to be masterful.  Forgiveness has been my greatest tool.

I’ve learned that stuffing my feelings to avoid having an upset doesn’t work.  As part of my practice of nonviolence, today, I look at how I fight. I set my intention that if there is anger, I can explore it – not judge it – with love and compassion.  I am learning to express how I feel without the energy of violence and a desire to wound.  

My practice is so very valuable to me.  I heal and the whole world heals with me.  Now that’s TRULY helpful.  How wonderful!

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