One of the key things to know about shame is this:

No one can shame us unless we agree.

We do live in fear of other people shaming us, right? But no one can actually make us feel ashamed without our agreement.

Here’s what helped me see it correctly: I stopped agreeing.

That’s why I don’t go there anymore. I am interested in seeing the innocence, the perfection, and the wholeness in everyone ALL the time – including myself.

The events of the world, which are so intense right now – twenty-some years ago, they would have sent me round the bend. I would have been so angry all the time. Worried. Frightened. Bent out of shape constantly.

But not anymore.

When we’re judging and attacking others, part of the boomerang that comes back to us is shame. Because in our consciousness, we might seem to have forgotten our true calling – but in truth we never do.

We have this whole-soul commitment to truth, to Beauty, to Love, and to unity.

That commitment is inextricable.

So when we give ourselves permission to attack others, the boomerang that returns is guilt and shame. We may feel it, but not realize it because we were judging and attacking and complaining.

But nonetheless, we will feel inadequate ourselves when we find others lacking and we blame them for it.

We’ll be judging ourselves as failures when we judge others as failures.

A Course in Miracles reminds us: “I must have decided wrongly, because I am not at peace.”

In order to eliminate the recurrence of guilt and shame, we have to stop attacking.

And when I say stop attacking, I mean that if we notice we’re attacking, we interrupt that pattern.

We might have just been on a rant for an hour.
But if we catch ourselves – that’s the main thing.
Then we can go the other way.

Even if we’ve been on a rant for days,
we can still turn and go the other way.
And then the guilt and the shame will fall off of us.

At least that’s been my experience.

In my Masterful Living Program, we practice catching ourselves at that choice point and choosing differently. We have to agree to the judgment against ourselves in order to feel ashamed – let’s not agree one more day.

We can do this!

In Masterful Living we practice letting go of all of these judgments against ourselves and it works.

We’ll practice letting go of our limited interpretations so we can see the perfection that’s always been present. And if you’re feeling called to help others make this same shift – to guide them from victim consciousness to empowered recognition of divine synchronicity – my Masterful Living Program will give you the tools, practice, and community support to become a powerful agent of transformation. Your willingness to see differently is all you need to begin experiencing the miracles that are always available.

We must decide, ourselves, now, that these pain patterns, that these beliefs, are no longer valuable to us. And in my Masterful Living Program, we support each other in making this decision stick, day by day, choice by choice and letting the painful patterns go forever. If you have any interest in Masterful Living or any other program I offer, and you have questions, you can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Quantum Counselors who’ve done the programs and can answer your questions. It’s a free call.

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LATEST ACIM PODCAST EPISODE:  Accountability Is My Power Tool. What if the very thing you’ve been avoiding is actually your greatest spiritual power tool? In this episode, I explore a word that doesn’t even appear in A Course in Miracles — accountability — and uncover its surprising connection to what the Course calls the second characteristic of God’s teachers. I share why most of us are already consistent… just in the wrong direction. And I reveal the three-legged stool that transformed my practice from oscillating chaos to grounded peace. I get honest about years of being “consistent in judging, attacking, complaining, worrying” and what finally shifted. I tell the story of Susie’s birthday party — and the meaning I made for years that turned out to be completely wrong. Plus, a real-time demonstration of what it looks like to feel invulnerable when life throws a curveball. If you’ve ever felt knocked off balance by the “windstorm” of life, come join me. There’s a better way.