Once upon a time, a friend called me up, upset about a phone message they got from a family member.
The family member was mad at them for not wanting to go on vacation together. My friend felt attacked. Understandable.
So I heard them out. They processed that feeling.
And then I asked: “So why do you think they’re attacking you? What’s that really about?”
And they instantly knew: “Oh, they miss me. They’d like to have more time with me.”
They’re attacking, which doesn’t make my friend want to spend more time with them. But it’s just their personality feeling so vulnerable.
And the way they can handle that vulnerability is to attack.
That’s exactly how I used to be.
And from that, I would feel deeply ashamed—judging myself as weak, not good enough.
What happened in that conversation was this: I said, “What I hear is that this person seems angry, but really they need something from you. They want your connection. They want your attention. They want to spend more time with you.”
You’re precious to them.
And that vulnerability they feel is so threatening, they don’t know how to express it.
So instead they’re saying, “You should do this. You should do that. You’re doing it wrong.”
But what they really mean is: “I miss you. I’d like to be with you. I wish we could spend more time together.”
That’s how life is all the time.
Once my friend saw – oh, this is their cry for love, their cry for connection – they didn’t feel triggered anymore. Didn’t feel angry anymore. Didn’t want to retaliate anymore.
They wanted to be kind and appreciate their vulnerability being expressed as anger.
Once they saw what was really going on, they didn’t want to attack anymore.
When we realize we’re here only to be truly helpful, this is how we start to dissolve that shame.
Isn’t that beautiful?
To hear the cry for Love in someone and open our heart to them – answering their cry with Love instead of anger and blame, is a beautiful feeling.
We’re in the right place at the right time, being right-minded. We’re aligned with Love.
We’re having a healing and we can extend it right then. And you know what? We really can do this.
In my Masterful Living Program, we practice hearing the cry for Love in everyone – including ourselves.
We’ll practice letting go of our limited interpretations so we can see the perfection that’s always been present. And if you’re feeling called to help others make this same shift – to guide them from victim consciousness to empowered recognition of divine synchronicity – my Masterful Living Program will give you the tools, practice, and community support to become a powerful agent of transformation. Your willingness to see differently is all you need to begin experiencing the miracles that are always available.
We must decide, ourselves, now, that these pain patterns, that these beliefs, are no longer valuable to us. And in my Masterful Living Program, we support each other in making this decision stick, day by day, choice by choice and letting the painful patterns go forever. If you have any interest in Masterful Living or any other program I offer, and you have questions, you can book an Exploratory Call with one of the Quantum Counselors who’ve done the programs and can answer your questions. It’s a free call.
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Accountability With Love, a Deep Dive Workshop on Saturday, January 17. How to hold yourself accountable in a loving and supportive way so that you follow through on the expansive vision for your precious life of Love and don’t let your vision fall by the wayside.
LATEST ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: Accountability Is My Power Tool. What if the very thing you’ve been avoiding is actually your greatest spiritual power tool? In this episode, I explore a word that doesn’t even appear in A Course in Miracles — accountability — and uncover its surprising connection to what the Course calls the second characteristic of God’s teachers. I share why most of us are already consistent… just in the wrong direction. And I reveal the three-legged stool that transformed my practice from oscillating chaos to grounded peace. I get honest about years of being “consistent in judging, attacking, complaining, worrying” and what finally shifted. I tell the story of Susie’s birthday party — and the meaning I made for years that turned out to be completely wrong. Plus, a real-time demonstration of what it looks like to feel invulnerable when life throws a curveball. If you’ve ever felt knocked off balance by the “windstorm” of life, come join me. There’s a better way.
