We wear our personality as a defense.
A defense against God. A defense against the world. A defense against being truly seen and known.
A Course in Miracles perfectly addresses how our defenses are built on false beliefs about our relationship with God/Love.
“You have built your whole insane belief system because you think you are in conflict with God, and you believe that He shares your confusion about this.”
We’ve spent years carefully constructing this identity. This version of ourselves that feels safe. That feels familiar. That feels like “us.”
But what does that defense actually get us?
The answer is misery. The answer is loneliness. The answer is illness.
That’s it.
Here’s what helped me understand this: I realized I was defending myself against the very thing I most wanted – love.
Think about it. When we put up defenses, what are we really saying?
“Don’t get too close.” “Don’t see the real me.” “Don’t expect too much.” “I’m not safe to love completely.”
We defend ourselves right out of the intimacy we crave.
A Course in Miracles asks us to look honestly at what our defenses are actually defending. And most of the time, they’re defending an ego identity that isn’t even real.
We’re protecting a version of ourselves that’s made up of:
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Past hurts
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Old stories
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Learned limitations
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Inherited fears
None of that is who we really are.
Who we really are doesn’t need defending. Who we really are is invulnerable.
Who we really are is love itself.
But we’re so afraid of losing our familiar personality, our comfortable defenses, our well-practiced ways of being in the world.
What if people don’t recognize us? What if we don’t recognize ourselves?
What if we become too loving?
“In your defenselessness your safety lies.” – ACIM makes us aware that what we think protects us actually isolates us, and true safety comes from dropping our defenses.
Here’s the beautiful truth: When we drop the defenses, we don’t disappear. We become more ourselves than we’ve ever been.
We become the love we’ve always been underneath all the protection.
We become the joy we’ve been defending ourselves against.
We become radiant.
Ready to drop the defenses that are keeping you miserable? Start with a FREE Forgiveness Workshop to start releasing what’s not really protecting you anyway.
Your defenses aren’t keeping you safe.
They’re keeping you lonely.
Time to let them go.
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I explore the difference between “pushing density” (trying to fix things in form) and “working in the invisible” (shifting consciousness at the level of the mind). I unpack why responding to error with anything except a desire to heal keeps us trapped in confusion. And I share the one prayer that changed everything for me — the prayer I now call my life’s purpose.
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