One of the profound gifts of being a minister and spiritual counselor for over 16 years is that I’ve sat in sacred space with at least 1,000 people as they’ve shared their deepest struggles with self-sabotage. Through their courage, I’ve learned something life-changing:

I can now see the sabotage coming – and I don’t engage.

I used to feel as though my own self-sabotage was like some kind of monster from the deep that would grab hold of my leg and pull me right down, under the surface, so I felt like I was drowning and there wasn’t anything I could do. 😱

I really hated that feeling of being pulled down, down, down by the ego. It felt so overwhelmingly strong that I didn’t have the strength to resist.

It felt easier to just let it drag me down and then try to make a comeback later.

Can you relate? 💔

Here’s what I know now: We can learn how to interrupt the patterns that drag us down.

These fear patterns SEEM like they have tremendous power, but they really don’t. God has ALL the power, and there’s NO other power anywhere, ever, at any time.

A Course in Miracles tells us: “You’re much too tolerant of mind-wandering.”

Our mind wanders to thoughts of separation, which frighten us, and we stay there. We add more and more to the story, like building a house of cards, until we collapse into some really blatant form of self-attack – drinking an entire bottle of wine, binging on food, scrolling until 3am, working obsessively to avoid feelings. 📱🍷

And of course, that’s frightening to us. It becomes more “evidence” to the ego that we’re idiots who can’t be trusted.

But here’s the truth that changes everything: None of this really means anything.

Only Love is meaningful. ✨

In that same section of ACIM, Jesus offers us the most practical guidance:

“The correction’s always the same. Before you choose to do anything, ask me if your choice is in accord with mine. If you’re sure that it is, there will be no fear.” – A Course in Miracles, T-2.VI.4

What if transformation really is that simple?

If we’d truly like to make sure our choices align with Love, we can ask to be reminded to ask. All of heaven will absolutely support us if we’re willing to receive it.

But here’s what I’ve discovered: Sometimes the most fundamental form of sabotage is convincing ourselves that we’re on our own when we never are and cannot be. It’s completely an illusion.

If you’re tired of fighting these patterns alone, join with the Holy Spirit – turn it over.  Just try it and see what happens.

Let’s join together and decide we will not be party to this insanity anymore! Enough!

Today, let’s have the courage to realize there’s no monster under the bed – there’s only the idea of one.

It’s a shadow. We are the Light! 🌟

The monster isn’t real. But our power to choose Love? That’s absolutely real. It’s Our Super Power.  And we don’t have to find that power alone.

We’re doing it together. 💕

And maybe you’ll consider joining my End My Self-Sabotage Challenge which begins June 29th with the first week completely FREE. 🎁 And this is the best deal I have for you all year.  It’s a crazy low price and we even have payment plans.

What do you have to lose except the patterns that are costing you time, energy, and peace?

My June Deep Dive Workshop topic is Eliminating the Blocks to Success.  Spiritual success that is. Have you ever felt like you were being held back?  Like you just couldn’t break free of a stuck place? I felt that way for many years. I didn’t realize I was doing it to myself.  In this workshop I’ll share tips and tools that really work support you in having a breakthrough to spiritual success which leads to success in all areas of our lives. Once we eliminate the blocks to our success then we’re in a whole new experience of this life.  Join me for a powerful Deep Dive Workshop on June 28th. Click now to register

NEW ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: my topic is 12 steps & ACIM – Miraculous Recovery with Mark Anthony Lord. Long time friend and prayer partner of mine, Mark Anthony Lord is a teacher of A Course in Miracles, an author, a Centers for Spiritual Living Minister, an Agape trained Science of Mind Practitioner and a brilliant teacher/counselor. In this week’s episode, Mark and I discuss how the 12 Steps Programs and the Big Book align with A Course in Miracles.