Happy Father’s Day!
I’m getting ready to offer my End My Self-Sabotage Challenge later this month, and this topic is burning on my heart. One of the most profound ways many of us sabotage ourselves is through unhealed resentment in our relationship with our Father.
I’ve talked with so many over the years who carried deep resentment towards their Dad – and even more who desperately wanted their Father to see them as special, to really notice and appreciate them. It’s so beautifully human and understandable.
But here’s what I’ve discovered after 17+ years of creating sacred healing community: When we’re ready to change these sticky, addictive, compulsive patterns that keep us stuck, we get faced with our “stuff” – and so much of it traces back to our family experience.
What if everything we believed about blame was backwards?
So many of us have blamed our parents for how we felt about ourselves.
But what if we brought those beliefs into this life WITH us?
What if we picked our family PRECISELY BECAUSE it would offer us the greatest opportunity to trigger those false beliefs, put them in our face in a way that was unavoidable – so we could resolve and dissolve them permanently, rather than carry them into another lifetime AGAIN?
What if that were true?
When I decided to take responsibility – without blame, without guilt or shame – everything changed. That choice led me straight to A Course in Miracles and transformed my entire relationship with spiritual growth.
The secret that changes everything
Here’s the game-changer: When we take responsibility, we take our power back.
BUT there’s a catch! We have to take responsibility without ANY blame, guilt, or shame. We simply own that we made decisions along the way, and we’re the ones who chose to give everything the meaning it had for us. It’s not easy. It’s not for everyone, but it’s liberating. It puts us back into a right relationship with our divinity and it’s healing.
We can abandon all of the meaning we made of things and move into surrender – the kind ACIM teaches in Workbook lesson 25:
“I don’t know what anything is for.”
We admit we can’t see through all directions of time and space. We aren’t able to clearly discern root causes or truly understand effects. We just think we do, then assign blame, and the misery continues.
This is why ACIM teaches: “Forgiveness offers everything I want.”
Because it does. But it’s TRUE forgiveness – the kind that I teach in my programs, where you let go of your perception, projection, and opinion. You move into that place of not thinking you know what everything is for. It’s humility. It’s surrender – not giving up, but giving UP.
Your invitation to sacred healing
Be willing to stop blaming anyone for anything – including yourself – and you WILL set your mind free.
If you’re not willing to take responsibility for what you think you see in the world, you’re delaying your happiness. ACIM is crystal clear on this:
“This is the only thing that you need do for vision, happiness, release from pain and the complete escape from sin, all to be given you. Say only this, but mean it with no reservations, for here the power of salvation lies:
I am responsible for what I see.
I choose the feelings I experience,
and I decide upon the goal I would achieve.
And everything that seems to happen to me I ask for,
and receive as I have asked.
Deceive yourself no longer that you are helpless in the face of what is done to you. Acknowledge but that you have been mistaken, and all effects of your mistakes will disappear.
It is impossible the Son of God be merely driven by events outside of him. It is impossible that happenings that come to him were not his choice. His power of decision is the determiner of every situation in which he seems to find himself by chance or accident.” Chapter 21, Section 2 – Responsibility for Sight
It’s a big pill to swallow, and it’s a big promise. But it works EVERY TIME without exception. We have to give up blame, take responsibility and then we have Peace, happiness, Freedom.
A Course in Miracles isn’t for everyone. It’s for people who have willingness to stop blaming and give up the need to punish anyone for anything. It’s a practice of profound compassion – especially self-compassion for convincing ourselves we’re victims, unworthy, unlovable.
We’re doing this together
On this Father’s Day, give all of humanity a gift: Be willing to forgive yourself for blaming others for your unhappiness. It’s a big step and a powerful one. It’s one of the primary ways we stop sabotaging ourselves and unblock our success.
Remember, we all share one mind. There are no private thoughts. All our blame, shame, and regret – everything we try to hide – is felt everywhere, by everyone, even if we can’t articulate it – we still feel it.
Your willingness is all that’s required.
I’m so moved by the folks in our Masterful Living Program. They demonstrate such genuine willingness to release the attachments to their conditioned view of life. Each week they inspire me with their courage to let go and open to Truth. It takes real spiritual fortitude.
And they’re encouraged by their results: more Peace, more Love, more Joy rippling out to friends, loved ones, co-workers, and community. It’s profoundly beautiful.
Your breakthrough is calling
Why wait any longer to be happy, spiritually successful, and living an inspired life? I can’t think of any good reason. Can you?
If this message resonates and you’re ready to dive deeper into ending self-sabotage patterns that keep you stuck:
Join us for Eliminate Your Blocks to Success – My 2.5-hour transformational workshop where we’ll uncover the #1 block keeping spiritual students playing small.
Register for my 6-Week End My Self-Sabotage Challenge beginning June 29th – The first week is completely FREE.
We’re doing it together, because community heals what isolation cannot.
And today, is Sundays With Spirit – come join me live on zoom, for a celebration, with music and inspiration. We’ll heal together! We’re choosing spiritual liberation and remembering to laugh!
LATEST ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: my topic is Faster Path to Peace. There’s so much assistance for us in the invisible field of Love – more than we can even comprehend, but we do have to be willing. In this week’s episode, I share how we can increase the speed of the healing of our mind, through following the clear instructions in ACIM. It’s always the perfect time to invite a miracle!
Thanks Jennifer 💫🙏🏻💞