Real quick, what’s the first thing that comes to mind when you think of a betrayal that still stings? Does something you still resent and hold against someone pop into your awareness?
How are you feeling about it now?
Are you resentful?
Have you been withholding Love from this person?
Have you banished them to the edge of your life?
When there’s a betrayal, or seeming betrayal, it can stir up a big nasty pot of ugly intensity. The old betrayal that simmers is like a nest of termites silently eating away at our happiness – and we may not even really acknowledge what’s going on, because we don’t want to. I get it. Been there.
BUT – Why wouldn’t we want to?
How about this: because the feeling of overwhelm and helplessness often accompanies a betrayal.
Consider: a betrayal seems to happen when we place our trust in someone and they don’t value that, they dishonor it and do something that is not in our best interest. The sense of betrayal is often accompanied with a strong sense that we don’t matter and it goes right to the root of a feeling that many people have, but don’t acknowledge.
What seems like a betrayal often feels like an affirmation that we aren’t worth sh*t – to put it super bluntly. It’s like a stab in the gut, on top of a festering wound. It’s like pouring gasoline on the painful fire of our own sense of worthlessness.
We focus all the anger and fear and hurt that is burning in that fire of worthlessness and then turn it back on the one who seemed to betray us. It’s as if the self-hatred gets projected out onto them. It’s easier and more tolerable to hate the one who betrayed us than to hate ourselves.
Betrayal is a HUGE distraction from our awakening and healing.
It’s like agreeing to inject a virus directly into our heart and let it spread to all of our organs.
Enough.
ENOUGH!
These can be the hardest things to forgive – and nearly impossible – until you know what’s really behind it all. And that’s what I love to help people with – clearing out ALL of that clutter and freeing the mind to awaken. It might seem impossible, but that’s just not true – and I’m into proving it. Let’s do it together!
Here’s a way out of ruminating on the past pain – If you’re feeling stuck, trapped, depressed, or just sad, forgiveness is the way to Freedom. That’s why we offer free forgiveness workshops a couple of times each month. The next one is Sunday, October 6. Let’s get our heads out of the past – Please invite your friends!
NEW! Deep Dive Monthly Workshop Series! Clear the mental and emotional clutter. Each month I’m offering a new workshop topic. Have you been a spiritual student who reads a lot of books, listens to a lot of podcasts (including mine) and is taking in a lot of information, but not experiencing the results you’d like? Together we will do the work you’ve been resisting!
- Clear painful habits
- Dissolve false beliefs
- Remember to laugh
- With NO judgments!
LATEST ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: my topic is Healing the Habit of Self-Attack. Whenever we go to attacking another we’re completely blocking any possibility of having true happiness and Joy. It’s completely in our power to live a happy life, but we do have to truly live A Course in Miracles. In this episode, I shares how tp put the pedal to the metal on ending self-attack and the motivation to do so. Your happiness requires the end of self-attack. Our happiness is available now!
Vote with your heart! If you’re a citizen of these great United States, I hope you’ll feel inspired to vote. If you’re not registered, you can easily register to vote online here: https://www.vote.org/register-to-vote/ Let your voice be heard because you’re here to represent God who sent you. One thing to know: Who you vote for is private, but whether you vote is public record – so if you don’t like getting phone calls, door knockers and such, once you vote they won’t be reaching out to you. If you’re someone who sends money to support your candidate, encouraging people to vote early will save time, energy and money candidates spend trying to reach them.
Thanks Jennifer 🎯