When we’re judging and attacking others, part of the boomerang that comes back to us is shame. Every time.
We might seem to have forgotten, but we never do. On a soul level, fundamentally, we have a commitment to truth, to beauty, to Love, to unity, to the oneness of all life – the very essence of God’s Love. We can think we’ve forgotten it. We can forget that we’ve forgotten it. But that commitment is still in us. It’s inextricable.
When we give ourselves permission to attack others, the boomerang that comes back is guilt and shame.
We may feel that guilt or shame but not realize it’s because we were judging and attacking and complaining. Nonetheless, we’ll feel inadequate. We’ll be judging ourselves as failures.
It’s critical, in order to eliminate the recurrence of guilt and shame – which always go together – that we stop attacking. When I say stop attacking, I mean that if we do notice we’re attacking, we interrupt the pattern.
We may have just been attacking for an hour. We might have been really loud and angry and belligerent about it. But if we catch ourselves, that’s the main thing. Then we can go the other way.
If we don’t catch ourselves, we’re going to feel guilty and ashamed. That’s the habit we’re developing – to recognize it, to catch ourselves. We’re interrupting the pattern to eliminate future pain.
A Course in Miracles teaches us: “Teach only love, for that is what you are.”
When those pain alarms go off – that feeling of shame, that feeling of guilt – don’t tolerate it. Don’t try to drown it out. Offer it to the Higher Holy Spirit Self for healing. I’m telling you, it works. It works, it works.
Think of the Higher Holy Spirit Self as the fire department. When the fire is burning and nothing we’re doing is putting it out – at some point, don’t we decide to call the fire department before it gets out of control?
That’s exactly what turning it over is. Danger, danger – core meltdown occurring. Call the fire department, NOW.
In my Masterful Living Program, we practice catching the attack thoughts and going the other way before the boomerang hits. And in my FREE Forgiveness Workshops, we practice this beautiful turning it over so we can stop repeating the painful boomerang. The next one is this Friday!
