I don’t feel as identified with my personality as I used to. My personality used to be obnoxious a lot of the time – and I thought I WAS obnoxious all the time.
When I finally began to see that I am not that personality, I could set it aside.
That’s when I started to lose that sense of shame and guilt and weakness. Because I began to realize that I truly am the I AM. The I AM presence. And there’s no weakness in the I AM.
The personality is a vehicle – maybe like a car we get in and drive around in. But we’re not the car.
People have said to me, “Oh, you seem so comfortable being vulnerable.” I don’t necessarily feel vulnerable when I’m sharing tenderness. What other people might describe as vulnerability is really my tenderness. Tenderness with myself, tenderness with others.
There’s a fear of weakness and vulnerability when we feel a sense of shame underneath everything. When we have that sense of not good enough, something’s wrong with me, I’m bad. That’s when shame is associated with everything – because we’re judging ourselves.
That can be COMPLETELY healed.
In the healing, the weakness and the vulnerability get transformed. The shame transforms into tenderness. The fear transforms into openness.
A Course in Miracles teaches us: “Teach only love, for that is what you are.”
The easiest path to stop investing in shame and guilt is not to project them out onto anyone else – and to start to see everyone as a treasure. When someone triggers us, those beliefs had to be in us already in order to be triggered. The one who seems to be triggering us is actually doing us a favor.
Every trigger is a healing opportunity.
When those old beliefs “I’m not enough” get triggered, we can squeeze every last bit of healing out of them so we don’t have to be subject to the same triggers for the rest of our lives. Just like a mosquito bite – once it heals, it’s gone. We can’t even remember exactly where it was. No trace of it.
That’s what can happen with guilt and shame. Completely healed. No trace.
But we have to be 100% willing.
In my Masterful Living Program, we practice this willingness together – letting go of the false personality and anchoring into our true identity.
And in my FREE Forgiveness Workshops, we learn the tools that make it possible – my next workshop is on Friday, April 17 – all FREE for you! Click here to learn more now.
Prayer Power Classes are SO GOOD! – There’s so much more available to us than struggle, and prayer can help you access it faster than you think. In these four online Prayer Power classes, we’ll strengthen your faith, deepen your spiritual practice, and help you remember how to partner UP with Spirit for healing, guidance, and true inner peace. We begin Monday, April 6th, and this is a beautiful moment to claim your place and receive the support that is already yours. Join me and let’s open the door to your blessing together. Click here to learn more.
New ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: Anger Was My Favorite Emotion What if every time you blamed someone, you were actually locking in the very pain you wanted to escape? In this episode, I explore Chapter 7, Section 8 of A Course in Miracles – “The Unbelievable Belief” – and unpack a fundamental law of the mind: without projection, there can be no anger; without extension, there can be no love. I confess that anger used to be my favorite emotion – and I explain how I came to see that projection is always an expression of fear. I also share why taking total responsibility – with zero blame – is the counterintuitive way out of suffering. The conflict isn’t out there in the world. It’s in here, in how we see. And that’s actually good news – because we can change our mind. We’re doing this together.
