I’d like to invite you to think of three relationships you’ve had – or still have – where there’s blame, regret, resentment, guilt, shame, maybe even jealousy. Three relationships that are really not resolved. That are still eating up some of your bandwidth.
Your bandwidth is precious.
The bandwidth being eaten up by those unfulfilled, unresolved special relationships is the energy we could have to heal our relationships, our finances, our career, our body, and whatever else that’s important to us.
We must forgive ourselves for giving, giving, giving, and overgiving in order to get validation, love, approval, praise, a sense of safety and security. We must be able to say, “This is how I learned that this isn’t the way. I’m glad to know that now.”
True forgiveness is when we no longer judge ourselves for our learning process.
We’re no longer attacking ourselves saying, “I should’ve, would’ve, could’ve. If only. If only I had. If only I hadn’t.”
Giving up all of those self-attack thoughts – that’s what helps to END the self-betrayal.
Here’s the thing many of us miss: we keep the betrayal going by not doing the forgiveness work. We delude ourselves into thinking we’ve done it because we’ve said things like, “I forgive you.” But we haven’t actually forgiven.
If it still bothers us, we haven’t forgiven it.
That’s the pain that keeps on going. That’s the great sacrifice – or at least the illusion of sacrifice.
I joke sometimes that I cut my nose off to spite my face so many times I have no nose left. That’s how much self-betrayal I engaged in. But the beautiful thing is: every bit of it can be healed through true self-forgiveness.
Doing the self-forgiveness for each of those three relationships that still bother you can be life-changing. It reclaims that bandwidth. It releases the shame, the stupidity, the anger, the resentment, the regret of having put so much in and not gotten what we wanted. That’s what my FREE Forgiveness Workshops are for. The next one is on Monday, April 6.
What if we got something even greater than just that relationship working out? What if we got our whole life back?
It’s Easter week, now is the time for us to rise up, redeem ourselves and give up the crucifixion. It’s easier when we do it together. Join me for a free forgiveness workshop on Monday, April 6.
Prayer Power Classes begin April 6 – There’s so much more available to us than struggle, and prayer can help you access it faster than you think. In these four online Prayer Power classes, we’ll strengthen your faith, deepen your spiritual practice, and help you remember how to partner UP with Spirit for healing, guidance, and true inner peace. We begin Monday, April 6th, and this is a beautiful moment to claim your place and receive the support that is already yours. Join me and let’s open the door to your blessing together. Click here to learn more.
LATEST ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: I Am Healed – Not I Will Be Healed Are you still saying “I will be healed” – and wondering why healing never arrives? In this episode, I share something I’ve been practicing for nearly 20 years that changed everything for me: a small word change in how I pray. I explore Chapter 26, Section 9 of A Course in Miracles – “For They Have Come” – and what it means that our healing has already arrived, that we don’t have to wait. I also get honest about my own journey from believing I was evil and unredeemable to feeling lit up with love. And I share why the people who treated me the most cruelly may have actually helped me awaken. If you’ve been waiting for something to change, this episode might show you it already has. We’re rising up!
