Taking offense is a choice. And so is the suffering that comes with it. For decades of my life, I didn’t know that. I was the queen of taking offense — at everybody, about everything, almost constantly. And I had no idea I was choosing it. I thought that’s just how life felt.
What Taking Offense Really Is
Every time we take offense, there’s a belief running underneath it — usually something like: if I were truly lovable, this wouldn’t be happening. When someone says something cutting, those words land the way they do because part of us agrees with them. The attack resonates because the belief is already there, operating quietly in our consciousness. And as long as that belief is active, every sharp word, every slight, every perceived abandonment will feel like proof of our unworthiness. Not because it’s true, but because we’ve made it the authority.
What I Had to See
I had to be willing to look honestly at what I liked about feeling like a victim. That is not a comfortable question, but it is an essential one.
Because as long as we’re blaming others for our feelings — as long as we believe things are being done to us — the healing we desire will elude us every single time.
A Course in Miracles teaches us: I am responsible for what I see. I’ve given everything all the meaning that it has for me. I choose the feelings I would have.
Until we accept that as the truth of our actual, day-to-day experience — not just as a concept — we’ll keep feeling like victims. We can choose it or not.
The Turning Point
The more willing I became to stop criticizing, stop complaining, stop taking offense, the more I could BE the Peace of God in any situation.
Now when I fall down a hole for a moment, I don’t stay there. I invoke my Higher Holy Spirit Self, I’m willing to see differently, a healing happens, and I don’t fall in that hole again. That hole is permanently healed. This is what Quantum Spiritual healing actually looks like — not managing the pain but healing it at the root.
If you’d like support breaking the habit of taking offense, join me tomorrow in my Recovering From Betrayal Workshop. We can heal our mind. We choose it — now.
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NEW PODCAST EPISODE: You’ve Been Fighting the Wrong Battle I’ve been studying and teaching A Course in Miracles for decades years, and there’s one teaching I come back to again and again — because it’s the one that most students resist. It’s also the one that finally set me free. In this episode, I share why everything we try to fix “out there” keeps failing, and what we’re actually supposed to be looking at instead. If you’ve been feeling powerless — like the world keeps doing things TO you — this episode is going to challenge you. And it might just change where you put your attention from now on.
