When I committed to having a healing in my relationship with my mother, this is what I had to face: I had deep, strong attachments to thoughts of resentment, anger, hurt, blame, shame, and guilt. All various forms of upset.
I didn’t know how to wipe my belief system clean. Of course I didn’t. How would any of us know how to do that?
So I began to invoke the Higher Holy Spirit Self all day long. Every time the thoughts came in, I’d notice my whole energy shifting, and I’d say silently:
“Higher Self, Holy Self, please take this judgment, this thought out of my mind, so I never think it again. This judgment, this opinion, does not serve me or my mother. I’m offering it to You.”
And then I’d say: “I am a creature of Love and Light, and that’s all I’m interested in.”
Not fighting the thought. Not defending against it. Not investing in it. Simply giving it to the Holy Spirit.
A judgment is an opinion. And it always causes suffering.
Always.
Even the “nice” ones. Even the flattering ones. Even “Oh, she’s the cutest little girl in the whole world!”
If that’s truly an opinion we’re holding, it’ll get in our way. We become attached to it because we invented it.
We could say, “In this moment, I feel like she might be the world’s cutest little girl.” That’s not an opinion. That’s a momentary experience we’re having.
But most of our judgments and opinions are negative. And they’re a constant, low-grade source of distress that we don’t even recognize as distress.
Here’s the easiest way to recognize that we’re in judgment or opinion:
We don’t feel comfortable anymore. We don’t feel harmonious. We don’t feel peaceful.
If, throughout the course of our day, we rarely feel peaceful or harmonious, chances are we’re consistently energizing judgments and opinions.
Our energy shifts. We start to feel irritated or frustrated. Then we often look for someone to take it out on, or some form of self-medication to dampen it.
My Mother’s illness at the end of her life finally got me to the point where I just couldn’t bear to judge her anymore. I finally discovered that I could let it all go. I had that power. I had to be truly willing and I was.
If you’d like to have this kind of healing too, then let’s do it together at my FREE Forgiveness Workshop TODAY, Saturday, May 9, the day before Mother’s Day. If you’ve got some of this going on, please join us.
We are SO BLESSED to get to do this together!
TODAY SATURDAY: If you’ve got some grievances you’d like to lay down before Mother’s Day, please join my FREE Forgiveness Workshop on Saturday, May 9. We’ll work it out together.
New PODCAST EPISODE: You’re Not a Victim What if life isn’t happening to me at all? This week I’m sitting with one of the most foundational sections of A Course in Miracles — Chapter 27, Section 7 — and walking us into a teaching that took me a few years of real willingness to fully accept. Why does almost every problem feel like something the world is doing to us? What’s the difference between responsibility and blame that most of us have never been taught? And what was the one tiny shift that helped me realize I’d never actually been a victim at all? This is part one of a two-episode arc. Listen with me on Episode 737.
