This is one of the things I really worked on because my ego thought system had a tendency to find fault with everything. It really did. I was constantly correcting, constantly pointing out what people were doing wrong, constantly trying to fix everyone’s errors.
It’s been a huge relief for me over the many years to be able to let so much of that go. To let it be over and not have to think about it anymore, not be responsible for correcting everyone’s errors anymore.
There are so much better uses of our time.
What A Course in Miracles Tells Us
A Course in Miracles, Chapter 9, Section III – “The Correction of Error” – tells us:
“Your brother’s errors are not of him, any more than yours are of you. Accept his errors as real, and you have attacked yourself.”
Now why would we attack ourselves if we’re looking at our brother’s errors and saying they’re real? Because there’s only One. It’s just that simple. We need to look at ourselves when we’re condemning others.
The Urge to Correct Is the Ego
This is one of the things that always comes up in my classes, counseling sessions, and workshops – we get in trouble in our relationships because we’re trying to correct other people and tell them what they should or shouldn’t do.
Let’s be honest. We’ve all done it.
When we’re correcting other people’s errors all the time, we’re not trusting in God. One of the things that can be really helpful is to share things what we’ve learned, but not to be critical about what other people are doing.
“Here’s what made a difference for me” rather than “Don’t do it that way, that’s not good.”
Can you feel the difference?
The Loving Alternative
We can begin to see that when we’re correcting our brother’s errors, what we’re actually doing is making the errors real. And making errors real keeps the sense of separation going.
That’s the only real problem any of us have – the belief in separation.
So let’s give up all correction of ourselves and our brothers and sisters. Let’s be neutral and choose acceptance more and more. That’s a path of true forgiveness. True forgiveness is not perceiving the error in the first place. That’s why I call it forgiveness non-judgment.
When we’re willing to see our brother’s innocence instead of their errors, something miraculous happens.
The correction we were trying to force from the outside happens naturally from the inside. Not because we made it happen, but because Love does what Love does.
In my FREE Forgiveness Workshops, we practice this together – seeing past errors to the innocence that’s always there. And in Masterful Living, we go deep into releasing our attachment to being the corrector of the world.
It’s such a relief when we realize we don’t have to fix everyone anymore.
We can just love them.
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NEW ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: I Am Healed – Not I Will Be Healed Are you still saying “I will be healed” – and wondering why healing never arrives? In this episode, I share something I’ve been practicing for nearly 20 years that changed everything for me: a small word change in how I pray. I explore Chapter 26, Section 9 of A Course in Miracles – “For They Have Come” – and what it means that our healing has already arrived, that we don’t have to wait. I also get honest about my own journey from believing I was evil and unredeemable to feeling lit up with love. And I share why the people who treated me the most cruelly may have actually helped me awaken. If you’ve been waiting for something to change, this episode might show you it already has. We’re rising up!
