I’ve had a lot of experiences where it felt impossible to let go.
Obsessive, compulsive thinking – the kind where we just can’t stop thinking about it.
For me, it happened in particular around experiences where I had a strong, strong attachment to how I thought things should be. When I had a strong attachment to a person and was trying to figure out how to get the relationship to be the way I wanted it to be. Or when I felt somebody had done me wrong – or had done someone I love wrong.
That would send me into an absolute tizzy.
I used to obsessively imagine having conversations with people – explaining what they didn’t seem to understand, explaining how I felt, what actually happened from my perspective, how they let me down. On and on and on. Or I’d be compulsively imagining how to get revenge.
It was so painful.
The thoughts felt so sticky, like I couldn’t get them off of me. Going back to something I didn’t want to think about, over and over again. I have very clear memories of that kind of thinking. It went on all the time.
Here’s what I know now: that’s absolutely not a good use of our life force. There’s no healing in those obsessive, compulsive thoughts. None.
A Course in Miracles tells us: “I am never upset for the reason I think.” If we’re upset, we’re not in our right mind. And when we’re not in our right mind, it’s very hard to let things go.
The antidote is Love.
It’s extending Love and compassion. If we put the Higher Holy Spirit Self in charge of it – step back, throw our weapons, our attack thoughts, to the ground, approach the altar of the heart without agenda – the healing comes.
Our willingness is all that’s required.
In my Masterful Living Program, we practice this together all year long – learning to step back from the obsessive thinking and let Spirit lead us to Peace instead.
And if there’s a specific person our mind keeps going back to, my Letting Go of A Person Deep Dive Workshop TODAY, Saturday March 21 is the perfect space to finally release those sticky thoughts for good.
We can do this together!
TODAY SATURDAY: If you’re struggling with a relationship, and it feels like co-dependency, it feels like you need to release an obsessive-compulsive attachment, I have a workshop for you. In Letting Go of a Person – Saturday, March 21, I’ll support you in tangible clear steps you can follow to release the attachment. You don’t have to end the relationship, but the pain won’t stop until you can release the sense of craving, needing, wanting, hating, and obsessing. Click here for more info.
NEW ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: Freedom of Mind or Body – You Can Only Have One Would you like Freedom of the body – or Freedom of the mind? Pick one. A Course in Miracles says we can only have one. In this episode, I explore Chapter 22, Section 6 – “The Light of the Holy Relationship” – and a question that changed everything for me about how we pursue peace. I share what I’ve learned about why so many of us keep searching in the wrong place, and what it actually means when ACIM teaches that “means serve the end.” I also get honest about the cost of withholding love – something most of us were taught was worthwhile – and why I’ve come to see it completely differently. If Peace has felt elusive even when you’re doing everything “right,” this episode might show you where to look instead. We’re doing this together.
