The primary challenge of why it’s so difficult to let things go sometimes is this: whatever we’re obsessively thinking about is something related to our identity.
Whatever’s going on that we can’t seem to release – it’s a challenge to who we see ourselves as.
For instance, it really used to bother me – and honestly, it still does, though not like it used to – when someone attacks someone I care about. I long ago realized that thinking something wrong has happened and that I’m the one to correct it makes it impossible for me to let it go.
Our identity might be wrapped up in being the protector, the rescuer, the one who brings justice.
We might see ourselves as the victim, or as the one who’s going to get revenge. It could be any number of things. But some part of our identity is wrapped up in the experience.
That’s why it feels like a threat when we consider letting it go.
When we’re ego-identified, there IS a threat. But when we’re identified with Spirit, how could there be?
When we recognize that we’re part of God, and that our identity is a spiritual identity – perfection, wholeness, beauty, wisdom, clarity, harmony, freedom, Joy – how could what anybody thinks, says or does disturb our Peace?
It’s not going to. Because our identity is clear.
When we’re identified with our Creator, with the perfect Love that we already are, we don’t fear attack.
Because there’s no way for anyone to diminish us. We’re not trying to shore up our image. We’re not trying to build it up or protect it because there’s no need to – there is NO threat to our true identity.
A Course in Miracles tells us: “Correction is not your function. It belongs to one who knows of fairness, not of guilt.”
If we assume the role of corrector, we lose the function of forgiveness. Our function isn’t to correct other people. Our function is to forgive – which means letting go of our attachment to the meaning we’ve made of things.
That false identity we’re trying to protect? It will never stand the test of time. It’s a lifelong war that we can never win.
In my Masterful Living Program, we practice identifying with our true Self instead of the false one. And my Letting Go of A Person Deep Dive Workshop tomorrow, Saturday, March 21 is a sacred space to release the identity we’ve built around that one person in our life – and this way, we can remember our TRUE identity – one with ALL. YES!
