One of the most freeing discoveries on the spiritual path is this:
We cannot correct ourselves by correcting others.
Yet how much time and energy do we spend trying to fix everyone else’s “problems”?
A Course in Miracles teaches us something that might sound shocking at first: “Your brother’s errors are not of him, any more than yours are of you.” When we perceive errors in others and react as if they’re real, we’re actually making them real to us.
We’re giving power to what has no power. It’s all imaginary.
The only REAL Power is Love.
Think about someone in your life who consistently irritates you. Maybe they’re always complaining, or they never clean up after themselves, or they interrupt you constantly. Now here’s the radical question: what if those behaviors only have the power to upset you because you’re making them real?
This doesn’t mean we become doormats or pretend harmful behavior doesn’t exist. It means we stop reacting to other people’s “errors” as if they define who they really are. When we look at someone with drug addiction and see only the addiction, we’re seeing error as real. When we can look at the same person and see their wholeness despite the appearance of addiction, we’re seeing truly.
The Holy Spirit doesn’t even see our errors, much less judge them. From the highest perspective, all of our mistakes are like typos on a page – they appear to be there, but they have nothing to do with the truth of who we are. The document itself – our essential being – remains perfect.
When we stop making other people’s errors real, something miraculous happens: they often stop making those same errors.
Get it? Our loving perception creates space for their highest self to emerge.
We’ve all experienced being around someone who sees our goodness despite our flaws and their way of seeing us allows us to actually become more of that goodness. Classic. That’s what Love does. That’s why the truth is so valuable.
The correction isn’t in telling people what they’re doing wrong. The correction is in remembering what they’re doing right – which is simply being the Love of God in expression, even when they’ve forgotten it themselves.
This takes practice. Our ego minds are trained to spot problems and try to fix them. But we can train ourselves to spot perfection instead. When we see someone behaving insanely, we can silently say, “I see the sanity in you.” When someone is being unloving, we can remember, “I know who you really are.”
This isn’t denial – it’s vision. It’s seeing beyond the surface to the truth that never changes. And in that seeing, healing becomes possible for everyone.
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