Here’s where we crucify ourselves – I’ve done it so many times – In our special relationships – the ego-based relationships where we think, fundamentally, “You plus me equals shelter against the storm” – we betray ourselves over and over without realizing it.
The special relationship is where we’re giving in order to get. It could be a romantic partner. It could be a job. It could be a friend. The underlying belief is: without you, I have no shelter against the storm.
A Course in Miracles Chapter 16 tells us clearly: “Each would deny his power, for the separate union excludes the universe. Far more is left outside than would be taken in.”
The ego thought system is designed to keep us wanting, needing only part of another person. The co-dependent part. The part that’s craving from a deep sense of lack – and that often becomes a liability and a burden. Then we end that special relationship, having taken all that time and energy (so much!!!!) and gained very little … until we forgive ourselves
We can’t even harvest the learning until we forgive.
Many people feel like they’ve wasted their time and their energy and their life. They get discouraged and start to blame Love itself. “Love doesn’t work for me. I’m a loser. I’m especially bad.”
That’s the self-betrayal in action.
The truth is, these special relationships were never going to fulfill us.
They were never going to complete us.
Those tasks aren’t even possible in a special relationship. Inevitably, we’re so disappointed when the other person doesn’t fulfill us, and we make it either their fault or our fault.
When the task was never possible to begin with.
Here’s what helped me to see it correctly: we can forgive ourselves for all of our seeking and investing in special relationships.
Every single one of them was a learning experience – and the learning is available the moment we stop judging ourselves for it.
We can transform our special relationships into holy ones.
The Holy Spirit will not fail at that task. But we do have to be willing. It’s required.
In my Masterful Living Program, we’re focused on learning how to transform special relationships into holy ones. Our brothers and sisters are our salvation – but only when we stop looking to their ego to save us.
Choosing Peace Instead of Insanity – I’m a guest speaker with Miracles Network on March 31st. In this online gathering, I’ll be sharing practical insights from A Course in Miracles to help us choose peace instead of fear and step out of the mental chaos that can feel so overwhelming. Together, we’ll explore simple, powerful ways to release painful patterns and remember the Love and sanity that are already within us. I would love for you to join us. Click to learn for more.
It’s Easter week, now is the time for us to rise up, redeem ourselves and give up the crucifixion. It’s easier when we do it together. Join me for a free forgiveness workshop on Monday, April 6.
Prayer Power Classes begin April 6 – There’s so much more available to us than struggle, and prayer can help you access it faster than you think. In these four online Prayer Power classes, we’ll strengthen your faith, deepen your spiritual practice, and help you remember how to partner UP with Spirit for healing, guidance, and true inner peace. We begin Monday, April 6th, and this is a beautiful moment to claim your place and receive the support that is already yours. Join me and let’s open the door to your blessing together. Click here to learn more.
LATEST ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: I Am Healed – Not I Will Be Healed Are you still saying “I will be healed” – and wondering why healing never arrives? In this episode, I share something I’ve been practicing for nearly 20 years that changed everything for me: a small word change in how I pray. I explore Chapter 26, Section 9 of A Course in Miracles – “For They Have Come” – and what it means that our healing has already arrived, that we don’t have to wait. I also get honest about my own journey from believing I was evil and unredeemable to feeling lit up with love. And I share why the people who treated me the most cruelly may have actually helped me awaken. If you’ve been waiting for something to change, this episode might show you it already has. We’re rising up!
