My relationship with my Mother was complicated for me. Like many folks, I had that push-pull relationship with my mother—deep love mixed with deep frustration, connection laced with separation, always wanting more than what we had.

My Mom and I were able to have a true healing in our relationship and that taught me so many valuable lessons.

When my mother was diagnosed with terminal cancer in 2005, I thought I knew what healing looked like. I had opinions about treatments, strong feelings about what she should do, and mountains of judgment about my family’s choices.

I was wrong about all of it. Beautifully, liberatingly wrong.

A Course in Miracles says, “In my defenselessness my safety lies.” When I finally stopped defending my positions, stopped trying to control outcomes, stopped needing to be right—that’s when the real healing began.

During those three years of her illness,

I discovered that healing isn’t about curing the body. It’s about releasing the mental patterns that keep us separate.

The unforgiveness, the blame, the shame—these are just patterns. And patterns can be dissolved.

The transformation didn’t happen overnight. I had my work cut out for me healing years of believing we were deeply connected yet always feeling separate. Years of looking for evidence that our relationship was disappointing. Years of my false beliefs creating tremendous distress.

But here’s what changed everything: I became willing to be wrong about all of it.

That shopping trip when I was selfish and impatient? It became a prayer for grace. Those medical decisions I disagreed with? They became opportunities to practice unconditional love. That Thanksgiving when resentment was lifted from my heart? Pure grace.

The last four and a half months of my mother’s life were the most extraordinary. We lived that passage from the Course: “Where we used to come to weep, now we come to laugh.” In hospice, facing the ultimate transition, we found joy.

We stopped protecting ourselves from love. We allowed each other in completely. I massaged her feet, gave her facials, and we looked at each other with the pure joy of recognition—seeing who we really were beyond all the stories and patterns.

A Course in Miracles teaches that Love is the healer because Love is what we are. When we’re being loving, we come back into our right mind and remember who we are and who sent us. Not treatments, not being right, not controlling outcomes. Just Love that’s the healer..

My mother made her transition in March 2008, but the healing continues. The patterns we dissolved together freed not just us but our entire family line. The love we finally allowed to flow unimpeded still flows today.

Every day you have the same opportunity to heal our relationships. You don’t need a terminal diagnosis. You don’t need your mother to change first. You just need willingness to see differently.

In my Masterful Living Program, we do this deep work of releasing patterns and choosing love. Every day, we practice what I learned in those precious years—that judgment maintains separation while forgiveness reveals the Love that was always there.

Join us for a FREE Forgiveness Workshop  next weekend. Give yourself the gift that keeps on giving—freedom from the patterns that keep you from the Love you seek.

Whether your mother is living or has transitioned, whether your relationship is difficult or distant, the healing is available now. Today. This moment.

The real shift isn’t about changing your mother or your relationship. It’s about changing your mind. It’s about releasing the patterns that obscure love. It’s about discovering that separation was never real—only Love is.

18 years later, I’m still receiving the gifts of that healing. And I’m here to tell you: All it takes is willingness to let love lead the way.

If you’re still upset about your relationship with your mother or daughter, you haven’t fully forgiven—and that’s not your fault. Saturday, November 15th at 3 PM Eastern, join me for a powerful 2.5-hour Deep Dive Workshop  Healing Mother Daughter Wounds, a Deep Dive Workshop. Whether your mother or daughter is living or gone, speaking to you or estranged, these tools work because all minds are joined. Your healing becomes her healing. Bring your willingness, and I’ll bring the tools that transform decades of pain into peace. Register now—your breakthrough is waiting.

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TODAY: Sundays With Spirit – THE MEN REPRESENT! We’re fortunate to have a wonderful group of men who have a men’s ministry and today they are presenting, bringing the music and the message at Sundays with Spirit – a wonderful opportunity to meet some of the most wonderful people in our ministry! Led by Tedd Swartz and Richard Carothers – please join us! It’s free to join, but you do have to register for Sundays with Spirit.

In my Masterful Living Program we release these patterns permanently. Because forgiveness is the great liberator. It offers everything we want—everything, everything, everything.