For years, I carried a belief that nearly destroyed my spiritual journey: “I can’t be that good.”

I was convinced I was fundamentally flawed—bad to the bone, unfixably broken. When guidance would come to love deeper, serve bigger, or step into my calling, that voice would whisper: “Who are you kidding? You can’t be that good.”

This one belief blocked everything—my relationships, my ministry, my joy, my freedom.

Then something shifted. Working with my counseling clients, I could see so clearly that every person who came to me was perfect, whole, beautiful. The struggles they faced were appearances, not their true identity. Each person carried this fundamental goodness that could be accessed like a powerful force.

That’s when it hit me: if they’re fundamentally good, and we’re all one, then I must be fundamentally good too.

I decided to put all my eggs in that basket—that we’re ALL fundamentally good, without exception. And everything started to change.

Here’s what I’ve learned after counseling healers, teachers, and spiritual seekers for nearly 25 years: we’re so much alike.

Many of us entered healing professions because we felt wounded and desperate.

We craved to be especially good because we felt especially bad, thinking external validation would balance out our secret shame.  And we wanted to help people just like us.

But playing small by clinging to unworthiness serves no one. 

When healers hold onto resentments, judgments, and attack thoughts against themselves and others, they delay their own forgiveness work. They avoid the rigorous spiritual practice that would qualify them for true service.

A Course in Miracles teaches that all other traits of God’s teachers rest on the characteristic of trust. Once you trust that God is good and God is in you, consistency follows naturally. You stop living in constant conflict with yourself.

If you’re feeling called to serve, to heal, to teach—but something’s holding you back—that calling wouldn’t be there if you weren’t meant to answer it.

You are fundamentally good. You are qualified by Love itself. 

The world needs healers who’ve done their inner work and can authentically say: “There is a way through.”  You may not be there yet, but you can still be truly helpful – we start where we are.

EARLY BIRD SPECIAL – Are you ready to stop playing small? I’m offering an online retreat that starts on September 5. It’s one of the most effective and successful things I’ve done. People repeat it 3 and 4 times because they get so much out of it. If you feel like you might be playing small in some area of your life – this could be your breakthrough! Plan for your success and we’ll do it together – click here to learn more about the Stop Playing Small Online Retreat in September. It’s on Early Bird Special right now! If you’re thinking of taking this, you can combine it with Finding Freedom From Fear – both are on Early Bird Special, and you get an EXTRA DISCOUNT if you register for both right now!

NEW ACIM PODCAST EPISODE: my topic is The 3 Lies That Create Anger (And the One Truth That Dissolves It). In this episode, I explore how anger is fundamentally a form of self-sabotage rooted in the projection of separation and the belief that we’re victims rather than the dreamers of our dream. Drawing from A Course in Miracles Chapter 6, I shared my personal journey from being a chronically angry person – like “a pot boiling on the stove” – to discovering that anger can only occur when we believe we’ve been attacked, that retaliation is justified, and that we bear no responsibility for our experience. The profound truth is that taking complete responsibility for everything we see and feel, without blame or projection, is the only path to peace, joy, and freedom – and when we model this for others instead of allowing ourselves to be victims, we create miraculous healing for everyone involved.